I relapsed after 60 days sober. I had been taking Antabuse for 60 days, but I stopped it 7 days before I had my first drink, so my relapse was planned. My cravings became incredibly intense, and I still don’t understand why they got so strong. Today I’m starting over with Day 1. Over the last 4 days, I spent a lot of money, and I’m feeling emotionally flat.
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Hey mate. Solid effort being back and being accountable. That takes true courage.
I remember vaguely sometime last year when id relapsed one of many many times but once had a very similar day count to you before i reset and on the threads id see your daily check in number climbing. It made me proud of you and want to be like that. You inspired me and many others and can do this. It also made me ashamed and feel shit when id see your number climb every day and mine was resetting… but i had felt that I would have been where you are if I hadn’t caved and made me feel pretty down.
Basically what im saying is, you’ve done it before so you can do it again. Your input here has been awesome and im so happy that you’ve not given up on giving up. But…
Whats the next step in your plan? Cause clearly something didnt work.
Have you tried AA? Other meetings? Something new that you havnt done before. Something much more involved. Deactivate social media so phone time is spent here and not doom scrolling, Reading quit lit/ big book, sobriety podcasts and such.
I found for myself that with each reset I had to dig deeper and do more then just the " try again" method because trying again just put me on the same path to eventually reset.
I ended up trying AA as a resolution id wrote down that I’d go to a meeting if I relapsed before. I did that. Went to three meetings in total. I held true to what I said.
My next proclamation is that if I reset again. I WILL admit defeat. Go to AA. get a sponsor and do the step work. My actions have consequences to be held to account. Ill be accountable to that otherwise I’ll end up in an endless cycle of resetting.
Hope something from here is helpful.
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Glad you are back @s_unrelax only you can stop the cycle you are in. Make the decision and try all those things that you werent willing to do before.
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Good insight that you planned your relapse. Thats honest… we all do it.
What are you running from which makes you drink? Whenever you do this you always mention the money you spend and focus on that more than the health or personal implications. I wonder why and whether that’s connected?
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Keep a record of this feeling so you know that drinking absolutely leads no where.
You got 60 days. That’s mighty impressive and a true testament that you can stack up the days when you focus on your sobriety. Make plans for when the cravings do get intense. They can pop up unexpectedly and stick around like the plague but only if we let our minds feed into em. We need to fill our life with healthy distractions. Not for a week or a month but for as long as we need to feel completely comfortable with our sober routines. For me that was for 1.5 years.
Glad you are back here with us fighting the good fight. Keep pushing forward my friend 
ODAAT
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Hey @s_unrelax .
Good to see you made it back and are giving it another go. May I suggest that you reach out either here or to your IRL supports when you feel
Those craving first hit or when that addict voice first starts whispering its lies to you. Personally for me speaking to people who understand in those moments made the world of difference in me staying sober this time.
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Welcome back, 60 days is BIG. I just started a few days ago and going strong while knowing how easy it can be to get sucked back in again. It scares me to some level.
How do you feel now? Pleaee vent if you feel to.
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Yes im ok now. Im really ashame now
Thanks so much
Thanks Jazzy
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Maybe go to a meeting they will help help me stay sober without relapsing plenty of excuses but didnt have any reason to lift a drink effort and desire goes a long way wish you well
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