I again relapsed after 18 days. Why this not working for me ?
4 days binge drinking, no food, still shame myself…
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What were the reason/reasons for the relapse?
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Sarath, I will be honest with you. This doesn’t come as a surprise, not at all. When you stop posting, stop checking in every single day, you relapse. When you stop going to meetings, you relapse. I see people comment on your posts with excellent advice and yet you do not actually take this advice.
I never see you posting about what you are doing differently after a relapse. I never see your plans for when the cravings start. You cannot keep going about your day to day routine like normal. You can’t just rely on “changing your mind” when you want to drink. It has proved time and time again that this doesn’t work.
How much more are you willing to lose? Alcohol has cost you your job, your home, your relationships, your car. You have a police case and owe a lot of money after getting into a drunk driving accident. One of your friends recently died from drinking. You feel so much better when you don’t drink, and then after a couple of weeks you relapse again and again.
You are going to destroy your life, either by your own death or by killing another person.
What you have been doing isn’t working.
I don’t think that the meetings are enough for you. I don’t think that focusing on your programming work is enough for you. Getting into an accident isn’t enough for you.
I genuinely think that you need to check yourself into rehab before someone loses their life. And you need to do so very, very soon. I can only pray that an innocent person is not harmed by your mistakes.
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A friend who is still drinker not like me an addict when i saw him drunken, i felt to take 2 pegs
Thanks Reese 
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But after 2 weeks. I again relapse even if i attend AA meeting also.
Once my health and mind getting clean, i get more happiness that make me to drink
That is why I think you need to check into rehab. You cannot drink, whether you are happy or sad or angry. You cannot be friends with people who drink. You cannot rely on meetings alone.
Call the emergency line in your area and ask them to help you find an alcohol rehabilitation center. Call them today.
You are running out of time and someone is going to die. I say this with love and fear in my heart for you.
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@s_unrelax I don’t know where in India you are located, but here is the number for drug and alcohol rehab in New Delhi:
0800 140 4690
They can help you. Call them today before you kill someone. Please.
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I sure hope you can get the help you need. Getting down to the root cause of your addiction is primitive, being rigorously honest with yourself is a way to some serenity. Dont think about long term sobriety and overwhelm yourself, doing it one day at a time is much easier. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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You saw a friend drunk and wanted the same?? Has this friend also got an addiction and a DUI?? Come on now…surely you dont think this is any reason to follow suit with everything your going through because of your addiction? Yes your going to meetings but are you actually engaging in them and your sobriety? I put it to you that you are walking the walk but not actually engaging…simply going to a meeting wont magically make you sober youve got to put in the hard work aswell…why did you not come here BEFORE your relapse and talk it out with us instead?
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Have you done the steps? Or really committed to any program? Give yourself 6 months of just doing one program to the absolute best of your ability. AA would involve regular meetings (where you are fully involved), daily phone calls to your sponsor, writing down whatever your sponsor says write, etc. If what you are doing now isn’t working you have to add more.
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- You stopped checking in here.
- You put in almost no effort into sobriety. Logging into a few online meetings isn’t going to cut it.
- You don’t follow suggestions.
- You are more focused on your car, or your job, or your ticket. You don’t make sobriety a priority.
- You talk all about how you want sobriety, but your actions don’t match your words.
- You make excuses about why you can’t do something rather than reasons why.
- You will respond to this post by saying “yes, I know” or “you’re right” but you won’t actually understand what you’re agreeing to and you probably won’t make any changes.
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If you search “Dubai alcohol rehab” online there are several options. Try an inpatient rehab:
You’re unemployed and live at home. There is absolutely no reason you can’t commit at least 3 hours a day to sobriety, if not more. Sobriety is not some big mystery. You put in the work then you get the benefits. Look at every single person on this forum with multiple years of sobriety. They all have one thing in common, they put their sobriety first.
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It’s not working because you don’t actually want to be sober. This isn’t me being harsh, I couldn’t get sober until I had fully accepted that I couldn’t drink. You have to want sobriety and be fully prepared to commit to it.
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And here’s the AA hotline for UAE. Call them:
He’s in India and has been for sometime
In the short time I’ve been here in this community I’ve seen a few posts like this from you. Every time you get lots of advice from some of the same people who have given me advice on my tough days. The difference is I listen and try to make use of the advice which is how I’ve made it to 53 days . I’ve spent countless hours reaching out here and reading and LISTENING. You need to understand you can’t half ass this and succeed. Again people have given you great advice . Some have even put the effort in to find numbers for you to call for help. My only advice is you actually LISTEN and use this info provided. I really wish the best for you but only you can stop this cycle.
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Ok, thanks; I was going based on his profile. Here’s the India AA line:
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Essentially your sobriety doesnt do the work for you…you work for it…you work your ass off every day to have your sobriety and to keep it…its not easy its really hard but the benefits far outweigh the work it takes, things dont just happen to you…they have happened because you took risks because of your drinking…you did that it didnt just happen. …only you can take the appropriate action necessary to make a decent change but that wont just happen to you either youve got to earn it work for it because it wont just fall into your lap…i may sound harsh and this isnt usually my style but things are getting extremely serious for you. Its not working for you because you are not working for it!
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@s_unrelax It’s been 8 hours since your last post. What have you done since then? We are worried.