Ever felt you were never going to add up or be what your partner always wants you to be no matter how hard you try?
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Ever try saying this: I am good enough, always!
Because you simply are. And, to have fear of not meeting an expectation is nothing more than a pre conceived resentment.
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I’m a people pleaser myself and trying to learn I am good as I am. With all my flaws and talents 
Sure me and my partner have discusions about things in the relation we want to be different.
And sometimes we try to change eachother a bit too. It is no harm to grow a bit towards eachother but only if you not loose yourself in it.
For me it was important to like myself more before I could see where I get over my boundaries with pleasing others. Recovery was my learning school in this. No more alcohol to cover the emotions so feeling it all.
Feeling my emotions, adressing them and talk about it with my partner was a huge part in how to clear things up.
We are more equal now and I’m learning to love myself too.
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