Repairing sociability and social life in general

What’s up guys

In two days I’ll have hit 5 months of sobriety, it’s been a nice little journey so far and I’ve been learning quite a bit about myself in the process. As of late, I’ve come to realize just how alone I’ve been over the past few years, having been a drunk I just got comfortable with hiding away and drinking by myself until I pass out.

In turn, I’ve found myself starting to sort of try and reach out, find some new people to talk to. It’s not exactly been going so great, I find myself withdrawing, shying away like a dog with it’s tail between it’s legs. I didn’t used to be this way, I used to be very social, had people I could call on and someone was always there. However, now I’m finding myself at odds with myself, second guessing. Doesn’t really help that my previous relationship was incredibly toxic.

How to overcome this? I used to have this mentality of not really caring about what others thought, having a hard time turning that back on.

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I was the same!

I had to really push myself to join some clubs, I joined a climbing club and a social dancing group. It was hard to get past the fear of joining them, but fake it until you make it is a great phrase!! Now I love it and have some great social connections and not enough time for all the fun activities.

When I was a drinker I would literally stay in my bedroom, literally in bed surrounded by empty bottles and drinking for whole weekends and every evening. After work. I’ve been there! Good luck on your quest!!!

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I joined a gym and started to work with the local council visiting elderly people and giving them help and advice, and was going to meetings and made new friends

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