I am an 18 year old female and I’ve been 30 days sober and there is so much going on in my life and I have these moments that I get so upset I actually start doing good for myself working out, morning walks, home cooked meals, and keep a clean space. Then I have these moments that I get so upset and can’t do anything and I know I should do coke again so I drink and I drink so much that I make bad decisions and feel like shit for days and I’m not sure what to do with the emotional spirals and I’m just stuck
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Welcome to Talking Sober Kluv! And congrats on deciding to do something about your drinking and drugging! That’s a huge decision, and one I couldn’t take until I was in my fifties. I commend you for it, it really is a big and brave decision to make.
Changing your life is not easy, most certainly early on it isn’t. It takes dedication, it takes work, it takes help, knowledge, it takes a plan. You read the thread at the top of the list when you first came here? The ‘what’s your plan’ thread? It might help.
Be sure it can be done. I did it and nothing special here. Find your tribe. We can’t do this alone. I found so much help here, but there’s help in many places. Wishing you the very best and lots of success Kluv. And welcome again 
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Hey, welcome,.and huge congratulations on 30 days!! I know that cycle well. I was drinking to numb myself, to delay having to feel things. But then of course I’d wake up hungover and ashamed and hating myself and the cycle would continue.
@Mno has been sober for a lot longer than I have and his advice is excellent. For me, finding this place was a game changer. I still had to work through my crap and learn how to do things differently, but the people here understand that. Everyone has been through something similar. It helps me to come here when I’m feeling low or tempted. And also when I’m feeling proud of myself!
We’re so glad you’re here and that you want to improve things for yourself. 
Read around, and remember that you only have to do this one day at a time.
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Coming from someone who’s been sober for two months from cocaine, it’s incredibly challenging, but it’s absolutely worth it! Definitely make an effort to get more involved in the gym; it makes a significant difference. Alternatively, consider exploring a new hobby. You’ve got this! Even being more active on this site has been incredibly helpful. There are so many people here who can support and guide you in the right direction.
YOU GOT THIS 
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Howdy maybe ameeting might help they helped me wish you well
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Welcome to the forum! Glad ur here! I know for myself intense emotion/stress was a huge trigger for me in the beginning. Anytime i felt overwhelmed or stressed out or emotional, id get the urge to use drugs/drink. I think its pretty common in the beginning to struggle with the emotions that pop up once qe get clean and sober.
For me, and maybe this will help u also, it was crucial that i found a support system. A place where i could come to daily and especially when i had the urge to use. This forum and 12 step meetings (such as NA and AA) where those places. There are in person and online meetings available.
Over time, u will discover healthier coping skills/techniques that work for u. Things such as deep breathing, grounding techniques, exercise, distractions, self care, contacting a support group/person, journalling, prayer… whatever that may be. It takes time to rewire our brains.
What matters is that u dont pick up. Focus on 1 day, 1 hour, or 1 min at a time. We are in this together 
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