I’m on day 14 clean & sober. The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous helps us understand resentments are our number one offender. That’s so fucking true. I want to say fuck it all right now - just because of one guy who power tripped and treated me really unfairly tonight. Instead of saying fuck it, I’m reaching out on here and “sitting on my hands”. I am so upset/mad/hurt it brought me to tears. I’ve been to several meetings where the topic is resentments - we need to look at them as spiritually sick individuals. But FUCK, I need help with these intense feelings.
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Read page 552 of the big book. Then follow the instructions.
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I already had that paragraph underlined and parts of it highlighted. It does work when I get to that point. It feels a little invalidating and more like a cute idea when the anger is this fresh and boiling. No fucking way I feel like praying for him right now. Maybe one day but today is not that day.
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I do appreciate your comment, though. Definitely helpful for my recovery growth.
My alcoholic mind kept spiraling and lead me to a bad panic attack!! I prayed, “God please, God please, God please”. I felt inspired to call a woman in recovery… even though it was 2:45 AM.
She said the same thing you did - pray for him. I was so resistant, saying I’d only pray for him to get punched in the face. She promised me I will feel physical relief of the resentment more & more as I continue to pray for him. I don’t have to even mean it sincerely at first. I told her I don’t want to, but I do trust her and need relief & safety, so I agreed to pray for him after our 45 minute phone call.
I’m grateful my Higher Power can reach me through other people. There’s no fucking way I can recover from this cruel disease alone.
Thank you, again, for your suggestion that comes from your experience, strength and hope. 
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Your still early in sobriety best to concentrate on that forget about this guy his ,dont think he in the same state as you ? so forget it ,if you have sponsor share it , dont let this guy camp in your head , lifes to short wish you well
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The guy I’m resentful at is in my AA community, goes to some of the same meetings I do. Not sure where you got the assumption he’s in another state? I am early in my recovery and focusing on that. I have shared this with my sponsor. It’s not easy to just, “forget it” when pain is felt intensely. Continuing to pray for him is helping, though.
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State of mind i ment , Resentment is a killer but if praying for him helps thats fine , wish you well
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