Returning to TS

Fell off the wagon after going on holiday last year….

Not proud of myself and need encouragement to get sober again.

Weekends are boring, have a 3 day weekend.

Dislike my job. Actually i dislike some of the people, the job is okay.

All just excusses…….

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Welcome back!!! :people_hugging:

We’ve missed you!

:partying_face: :tada: :mirror_ball:

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ICanAndWill thank you. That brought a little tear to my eye…..i needed that.

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Welcome back!

Realizing this :up_arrow::up_arrow: has been a huge part of me staying sober this time. There are never any good reasons to drink just excuses.

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Right on & back where you belong! No more listening to you when it comes to booze, or drugs, except that you don’t ever have/need to do them ever again! Hugs friend

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I’m glad you’re back. Not all of us get the chance to come back.

What did you do during those 8 months that helped you to stay sober?
What did you stop doing that allowed you to think that drinking would be ok again?
Finally - what is it that you have told yourself you will not do in order to get sober, and why are you not doing that now?

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Welcome back. I’m like you. Back after 18 great sober months. 4 days in and the clock starts again.

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Welcome back :waving_hand:t2: I can relate to what you said about being on holiday, the same thing happened to me before. I made the mistake of believing I was cured, I could have a drink socially and know how to control it. I learned the hard way that the addiction never leaves us.

For now, take each day as it comes. Check in every day on TS to keep yourself accountable, and prepare yourself in case the addiction kicks you. Remember to have tools to get you past those tough moments. Read as much as you can here, it is very motivating, and you’ve people around you that understands what you’re going though.

Good to see you here :slightly_smiling_face:

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What did you do during those 8 months that helped you to stay sober?

I stayed away from the pub and did not buy alcohol.

What did you stop doing that allowed you to think that drinking would be ok again?

Well i went on holiday with familty and drank when away.

Finally - what is it that you have told yourself you will not do in order to get sober, and why are you not doing that now?

I need to stay out of the pub. I enjoy going but need to find a better use of my time…i have a very active mind and get bored easily. I think the alcohol removes that activity.

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Maybe try a meeting might help wish you well

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Welcome back! Glad u posted and that ur trying again! We are in this together :slight_smile:

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I get that avoidance alone has a limited effectiveness. It is required, but not sufficient. What about recovery programs like AA or Smart Recovery, or an intense outpatient program?

Growing your sobriety is different from abstinence.

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welcome back @printerman
recovery requires daily work, not just avoiding your DOC.
you bored? get that work going! rwad, educate yourself about addiction, sobriety and recovery, work on the underlying isdues, join a program, binge on podcasts, documentaries, tons of recovery content out there. No excuses. Do the work.
But first: Drink water, shower, sleep, eat and put your sober head on the pillow tonight :people_hugging:
You are not alone.

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Thanks everyone. You are all so kind commenting. I feel lost at the moment. Still drinking at weekends, just can’t seem to find anything that keeps my mind active so i numb it with beer.

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Thank you for being so open and honest.

Addiction isn’t easy.

If it was, we wouldn’t need support groups!

At first you don’t succeed: try, try again!

Lord knows it took me decades to finally get where I am with my PMO sobriety, and I quit smoking a million and one times before it finally stuck.

Keep practicing with your “mini-quits” and be kind to yourself.

Are you going to AA?

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I’m not going to AA. There was a meeting every Tuesday near me but when i actually looked into it i was told, that it was cancelled months earlier.

Thanks again. I feel like i’m letting people down. My wife, my kids, i don’t think they know how i feel. I just with i had a distraction.

Before covid hit i used to run a lot. Did a few half marathons, and used to run maybe 80 miles a week. Now i just have no motivation. I know its the devil on my shoulder..

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Weekends are boring when you are drunk or hungover. I look back at the time I wasted being out of it and can’t believe what a sad sack I was. I do so much more now: work, study, hobbies, cleaning and still have time left over. Running sounds great, there is a running thread which would be thrilled to have you
Running in Recovery in 2024-2026
And there are plenty of online AA, so don’t let the one near you being closed be an excuse
Meeting Directory – Online Intergroup of Alcoholics Anonymous Meeting Directory – Online Intergroup of Alcoholics Anonymous
You can try lots of different ones all in the comfort of your own home.
Or if AA is not for you, plenty of recovery resources here.
Resources for our recovery

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Thankyou Misokatsu. I did’nt know about the meeting directory. They all seem to be in the USA? Is there a UK i’m missing?

Ah yes i can see A New Beginning.

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Welcome back.

Did exactly the same thing, thought i had it under control till it got hold of me again. Found myself back here also.

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Hit online meetings, they are available 24/7.
Motivation comes with doing, not the other way around. Get your sober ass going and do your daily recovery work :sunflower:
You cannot get bored when you do the bloody fucking everything to stay sober. It doesn’t matter so much what you do, just DO.
My personal hitlist #1 goto was deep cleaning the toilet. I had a shiny throne for a long time until I got my routines ingraved in my brain and my emotions balanced.
Keep going :people_hugging:

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