Hardest time I’ve had in a long time. 4 family deaths this year. Great uncle in February, grandma in August, a cousin OD’d last month, and now an aunt. All in the same side of the family.
I’m about 2.5 years sober. This is the first time I’ve had to deal with death in my family sober. I guess I’m just wondering to those who dealt with this… I havent really cried. During the drinking time I would. Even if I didnt have a drink in me… is this a normal thing?
Honestly man. It sounds like acceptance to me. Even tho it’s hard, and saddening, sometimes we just know to accept things. This was their path, you’re doing good man. You’re strong now and no life still must go on, and that drugs and alcohol won’t solve any of it.
And you’re probably right. I have to go to grandma’s house to clean the outside to get ready to put on the market… maybe that’ll it. Am I sad. Yes my heart hurts. But what’s crazy and feels great… I’m not thirsty. I figured I’d still have the itch with only 2 years. Maybe best I dont jinx it
Proud of you man. 2.5 years, I can’t wait to be there some day and strong as you. Keep doing what your doing, I see alot of strength here. You’re being there for the family, helping, and staying level about it. No better way to handle this situation honestly.
Thanks mike. It’s with support from you and everyone else here. My uncle (on the same side as the deaths) is almost 30 years sober. Having him to talk to has helped a lot
Sorry about your losses. Thats alot. I think anybody would be WTF!?!?
Thats probably why. Your shocked.
I’ve had times in sobriety where I wouldnt allow myself to cry because I was afraid I wouldnt be able to stop.
Grieving is different everytime I’ve had to do it.
My deepest condolences.
I am sorry for all of your losses 
that is a lot.
Grief is so individual. And sometimes we cry, other times we don’t. There is no set way to experience grief. So yes, it’s normal for you, right now.
Glad you have your Uncle as a solid support.
Hi Phil, I have not dealt with death, my sobriety has not been tested that way. I just wanted to say that I feel for you, for the many people you’ve lost this recent time. And I hope you’ll be ok. It sounds like you’re dealing in a healthy way, not shutting it out, not becoming depressed or shaky in your sobriety. May it stay this way, and you stay strong and deal with life. My best wishes and condolences