New at recovery again (Day 1), I am wanting to practice more self compassion… being more aware of my negative self talk and transforming them into something positive. I, like alot of people, subconsciously or unknowingly send hurtful messages to myself and I recieved a fb text today about being our own best friend.
When I catch myself saying hurtful things to myself I now want to challenge those thoughts.
Would I say these things to a friend???
What would I want to say to him/her?
I feel like showing myself self compassion, self respect, self love is crucial for my recovery. I have beaten myself up so much over my drug use, my weight, and my “career” as a former sex trade worker… calling myself all sorts of degrading names etc. If I want to change my actions, I feel like I need to begin my changing my thinking.
So here we go!
And I wanted to share this with you all bcuz this was a big moment for me when I realized that I would never dare talk to a friend this way, so why do I say it to myself? Maybe it may help others 
Hope everyone is well!
It’s a big and ongoing effort to change our subconscious believes, and we who talk down to ourselves deep down believe that we deserve it this way. Because we are wrong, broken, stupid, unworthy etc. I’m on the same team.
I have confidence in you to learn to become aware of this behaviour and tackle your unconscious believes. You are worthy and you matter. Power to you girl!
It’s a great thought, thanks for sharing!
Oh no worries! Glad it was useful for you
Thanks so much! It sure is a big challenge and an ongoing on at that. Thank you for your confidence in me 
Thank you so much, i have been in turmoil all day beating myself up over things i have done in the past and now sober, micro-managing every aspect in my life because im scared of how i will react to an upset in my life. I have used drugs for the last 20 so managing my emotions is hard.
I am on day 51 and i need to acknowledge what i have accomplished during this time and not dwell so much on all the crappy times. Im endeavouring to be a different person sober. Thanks for this, i needed it today. Good luck xx
This is very powerful, how exciting for you!
You are absolutely correct, no friendship would flourish if we treated our friends this way.
We do everything, regardless if it is healthy or unhealthy, because it works for us. I am glad you realize self-deprication is no longer working for you.
It is not selfish to love and honor yourself. Remember that!
Thank you for putting this on @Butterflymoonwoman. I have been actively trying to do this also. I had the same realisation a while back. We wouldn’t talk to anyone the way we talk to ourselves. I am still new to this but it is working. I didn’t like my body always feeling fat etc. I read somewhere that someone was looking back at old photos and they always thought negative things about their body but they wished they hadn’t as now they are older they realised what a waste of time this was. And when I read this something clicked! So now I try to be kind to myself. I’m actively eating better and daily exercising to help with my wobbly bits but I’ve decided that actually I’m ok. Sorry for the ramble but I get it babe! Wish you well keep us posted on how it’s going… be kind to yourself you are awesome! 
