I’ve been using self harm as a coping mechanism for what feels like my whole life. I’ve tried going to AA and NA. I can see how they can really help but I felt like an imposter because my “drug” isn’t one. I’m 205 days “clean” today and wanted to shout it from the roof tops but with all the stigma I suppose I will just shout it here. It’s been a long hard road to reach this goal and I am a bit proud.
Thank you for allowing me to share.
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1st, all addictions welcome.
2nd, congrats on 205 days!!! Huge achievement.
Could you possibly share what you do that helps? My daughter self harms. 
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I used self harm to deal a lot and would self harm a lot after an alcohol binge. I finally came clean to my mom about it in May (I haven’t self harmed since then). My current boyfriend knew about it 3 months before my mom and he was super concerned - he tried to get me to stop but I was sneaky af and he wouldn’t know until after. Then he would help “patch me up” after I cut. But once I came clean about it, it was a huge weight off my shoulders.
I found keeping a rubber band on my wrist and snapping it when I feel anxious helps a lot.
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To reinforce @Elisabeth’s post, all addictions are welcome here. I’m a porn addict, and I’ve found no judgment here. Welcome, and I hope you find what you need to stop harming yourself.
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If your looking for in person groups I would suggest talking to your doctor. Either they know or they can direct you to someone who does.
Or perhaps is there a crisis line you can call. They absolutely should have local resources for you.
Congrats on your success
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Thank you everyone for you support! 
It took me many years and lots of therapy to get where I am. It’s going to sound odd but what worked for me was to stop fighting the urge to cut and “allowing” myself to do so… but later. I would say things like "okay I’ll cut but after I do the dishes. Then after I did the dishes “I’ll cut after I take a shower”. And so on and so forth. For some reason that worked for me. It took away the Undescribable urge that I just HAD to do it because in my mind I was going to do it. Just later. And later never came. Well so far later hasn’t come. It’s still the first thing I think about especially when life seems unlivable but that’s what’s helped me. Hope that helps.
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