Today I had an exceptionally bad day at work. Feeling super low. Realised that I didn’t eat all day.
Feeling like a failure at everything. Still did not drink, so there is that.
3 jobs and flaling. Trying to keep my marriage in tact. Trying to get ahead financially but at every turn, something happens and I can’t. Just feeling bad about myself and hopeless. Trying to just feel the feelings and all that. But I dont know if that is helpful. What do you do when you feel like that?
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Journal in my gratitude journal to make sure I am not just focusing on the bad stuff and make it a point to be thankful for the good stuff that I sometimes don’t focus on.
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I remember who’s daughter /granddaughter/great granddaughter I am. Then I take it to my higher power, then I look in the mirror and speak affirmations to myself. Oh yeah, I also adjust my crown while I speak to myself. You choose you in this moment, by staying sober, walk tall and adjust that crown my friend!
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There’s a contradiction right there. You succeeded at staying sober today, despite all this crummy stuff and feelings happening. That’s huge Daphne! I think Stilly has a good idea there. Writing it out, both the good and the bad, the positive and negative. Doing some guided meditation might help a bit too (thanks for reminding me about that one, haven’t done one for ages). Thanks for sharing friend. That helps too. Strength to you and much love.
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I try to get the hell out of my own head and go do something helpful for someone. Later I may come back to it but by then I can remember what I have control of… not much but my own actions and attitudes.
You’re doing great Daphne by living in sober first and everything else just works.
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And there is it!!
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Call my sponsor and or others that ive met at meetings and of whom i trust. In place of a plan to run myself of a literal cliff in my car, I dont drink or use and Ive become stronger, I hear hope from these people when I need it the most. Also , I go to plenty of meetings, I have to reach out and take suggestions.
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Love this!! I always remind my daughter of this when she gets in that down spot.
@Daphnecat, you are stronger than you know and like Menno said, your sobriety is intact and that in itself is HUGE!!
I try to remember that today is the only day I have, this moment, right here. This moment I am breathing in, then out. I can take a walk. Or focus on the task at hand. Or sleep. Not all days feel so great and that is also okay. Feeling not great is acceptable and normal. Journal it out? Walk it out? Remind yourself of the incredible accomplishment of your sobriety. That is some strength there. 
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I was listening to a podcast, an episode about low self esteem and core beliefs. There was a bit about the old inner child thing, which I have never really understood before.
He went on to say about how all babies are so wonderful and make people happy because they have an innate value. This doesn’t go away - it just gets covered up with life rubbish like school/work/society etc.
To remember your baby self (inner child) is to remember that you were born with value and it cannot be taken away -its all still there.
I think that’s what it meant anyway - either way it was pretty much a breakthrough for me.
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Thanks everyone. Update- I felt way better after I ate some food and slept. Did some volunteer work today and met some really nice people. Made me feel good. I had a good time, too. Then I treated myself to a fancy coffee. Reminded me that most people are good and kind and have good intentions. And that every day is new and I can choose how to see things. People were patient with me today whe, I wasn’t at my best and I needed it. Makes me want to spread more good.
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So glad to hear. 
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I have felt this way many times and what I’ve done when that has happened is light incense or place oils in my oil burner, turn on Lofi music or music that makes me happy, example house music and I write everything that I am feeling down about in my journal. I also go for drives in the middle of the night or take walks to just get air and let the breeze touch my face or the last thing I do is just meditate. I sit down and deep breath and then start praying but talking to god like he is a therapist.
One thing I want to point out in your post is good job for not turning to drinking because that has always been a go to of mine when I feel down about something. Keep that up because drinking will only cause mor depression and or anxiety. I want you to also know to keep going even when it gets tough, I’ve had jobs I wanted to quit and actually did 3 times because I felt like a complete inept employee. The workers and the atmosphere was toxic and eventually I did leave but I woke up and realized I wanted to be independent and finally found a job I liked that paid what I was looking for. You will get there and always remember to tell yourself you are doing the best you can.
Right now financially I feel like money is just flying out of my pocket but I just keep telling myself, I have goals and they are going to happen. I am sending out positivity energy to you.
I do hope the above tips I gave will work for you. Have a good day and stay blessed 
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Try to replace those negative thoughts ASAP, next thought make it positive and grateful! And keep doing it until you are reminded of all the blessings we overlook every day! Clean sheets, electricity, a phone, clothes that fit, etc. Shake it off boo because someone out there is doing more with less 
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Thanks for sharing and starting this thread.
Thanks for all the positive responses.
I’ve been quitting smoking. It’s hard! I made it 45 hours and caved. My self loathing got triggered.
Reading this thread helped me feel better. Tomorrow’s a new day and I’m not drunk or high.
I’ve been starting a couple of different businesses. Three including YouTube.
It’s stressful. I find myself full of fear and doubt one minute. Confidant the next, only to feel overwhelmed by the expenses, and lack of income being generated at the moment.
I have to remind myself that I can have/do anything I want, but I get everything that comes with it. At least I’m not out there making it harder that it already is being a drunk.
It hard to save money. Being willing to work three jobs like you are makes it easy to burn out. I relate 100 percent.
Trying to work a program and manage time for self care sometimes adds to the stress.
I forget to eat. I think about eating and try to finish things I’m working on. The next thing you know, it’s been nine hours instead of six since I ate anything substantial.
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You are awesome, take pride in the fact you decided not to relapse. Your vision of yourself can get twisted in this disease. I bet there are numerous people that find you are amazing. Your sobriety has to be number 1 for you to manage your life. I have struggled with regrets, sorrow and anger because of my addiction. But I can’t let the past stop me from going forward. The rear view mirror is much smaller than the front windshield. Staying clean is a great victory for you. Keep it up!!!
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Thank you for reminding me of this. What a simple but great point!
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In days like these when I feel like all is loss, I try to think of one good thing or a blessing. I have a roof over my head, a soft pillow to sleep on, my dinner wasn’t fancy or a ribeye steak but my tummy is full. Then I ask myself if there is one thing I can fix tomorrow or change to my future better or have more blessings.
Awesome job staying sober in your difficult time, that part is wonderful. 
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Yes! Quitting smoking is hard! I finally quit 4 years ago.It does not happen overnight for most.
And also good for you for realizing that being drunk will only hinder your success.
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