Self pity pit

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I’m noticing that I’m turning into such a selfish petulant individual who has told so many sob stories of poor me and what I’m going through, and almost feeling entitled to have people fuss over me, it’s messing up my personality and connection with people. How do you keep yourselves in check. Please just tell me straight as the softly does it approach does not work I’m me I’m more likely to lap up the attention.

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I feel like this should be my wheelhouse but In reality this is very common for people of our persuasion. Generally I have found it’s my ego that causes this type of behavior in myself. What I do to work on that is service work of any variety. Helping other drunks, doing work in the community or just regular old random acts of kindness

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You know the score-

Do the steps again, step 4 inventory and make amends!

Daily inventory at night (which I don’t do myself but I will always suggest people need to🤣)

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Thanks @Englishd I have worried so much that my ego and arrogance was creeping in. I definitely don’t know better just blind passion for things even if they are wrong I want things to be right. Got a lot of work to do on myself

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I’m starting on step 1 and reading the doctors opinion in the big book. Which I still have, thanks for that :grin: it’s been much needed

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Great! Forgot I sent you that :sunglasses:

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My benefits of being sober

  1. I’m by far a better and more present mother, I have seen my children grow and proud of their achievements that I have helped them academically
  2. I’m a contributing member of society who cares for others
  3. I have a beautiful home to be proud of and not just a shell of a house that I had in addiction.
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Still have it :grin:

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You’re sober and you are working your sobriety in the way that works for you. Not much more anybody can do. As you know recovery is work and heaps of it. The 12 steps are a pretty good guide to how it’s done right. Keep going and keep working your ass off.

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I don’t know why I don’t though, I do know I have long term depression which often clouds my thoughts, feelings and judgement of myself and I try tentatively to change my thinking patterns I just find it a struggle right now

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I feel like @RedDragon is in my skin and brain. So I’m gonna try that same suggestion.

3 benefits of being sober

  1. Im showing my daughter a better way and she says she’s proud of me today.
  2. I dont wake up hungover and wonder what viscious thing I said the night before or who I said it to.
  3. I can show up in my life and take care of all the things responsible adults take care of to manage life. Like paying bills, scheduling appointments, answering the phone, etc

Thank you for the topic Michelle :hugs:

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