Am struggling rt now. Been struggling with urges and release. Anyone free to talk?
Hello,
I am also a sex addict, i know how the urges can feel impossible to shake and feel all consuming. I know how easy it is to slip into euphoric recall, thinking you’re missing out or that you would enjoy acting out.
It’s all bullshit lies your addict brain is feeding you to try and get you to act out again. Don’t let yourself buy into the delusion.
How old are u? when did u start watching porn?
If you have coping strategies already for when you feel triggered or the urges hit you, now it’s the time to use them.
Breathe, don’t rush into doing anything you’ll regret, think about how shitty you would feel if you acted out now.
Maybe try doing a meditation for 10 minutes, see if the urge passes naturally?
29, started watching porn in my early teens, maybe 12-13ish.
Currently on 428 days of no porn, no masturbation, no acting out.
Wow. I feel so guilty, I stumbled on it around 11 and i kept watching it rather than stopping.. makes me feel like I was dirty inside.. why did i not stop!!
that guilt kills me…
I think that’s a question a lot of us addicts have, the answer is that we are addicted!
Okay, so you’re feeling guilty, try to use that feeling in a positive way. Rather than letting it lead you back to porn and acting out, use it to motivate you to NOT watch porn. Watching porn isn’t going to make you feel any less guilty, in fact it’ll make you feel worse.
tbh going to meditate and try to focus on breathing…
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I wouldn’t get so hung up on the age you started watching porn, I know other sex addicts that started watching even younger, there are some that started later, some of the older generation of sex addicts started with stealing their dad’s porn mags before there was high speed internet. We’re all different, but we can all generally relate to one another in our addiction.
Possibly in the beginning your porn use may not have been addictive, it may have been a natural exploration as a youngster, but clearly over time as with all addiction it progressed and started to impact your life negatively.
The important thing is that you’ve realised this, you’ve recognised the damage that porn and sex addiction does, and now you’re seeking help and trying to stop. I can’t understate how important it is to truly, genuinely WANT to stop.
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I think was stressed and anxious. Did u struggle with anxiety growing up? I had horrible anxiety and it has been the root cause!
It did. It took away a lot of time. Though I do regret but I am better person today, more loving and kinder. I have multiple addictions… so it makes it worse. What are your triggers?
It was addictive right from the start. My anxiety stems from lack of trust in myself and life. Due to experiencing trauma and lot of horrible experiences. Growing up in a poor country kinda shapes one too.. we have this deep rooted insecurity. It has been a looong journey you know Rich. Thanks for the support.
Meditation and breathwork sounds like a great way to ground yourself and take a step away from the urges. 
I’ve spent plenty of time feeling anxious, self conscious, shy, low in self confidence. A big thing that keeps us stuck in the cycle of addiction is shame, so it’s quite important to put work in to get rid of the shameful feelings.
Triggers for me can be literally anything, boredom, hunger, loneliness, stress, seeing someone walking down the street, seeing an attractive person on TV… the list goes on
Shame and envy is also a huge one for me, constantly coveting something other has. Also not to “worry” seems like I am betraying myself. Like I must worry… I think I need to kill this parent ego within me.. which made me feel guilty if I ever not worry or feel anxious about something…
NGL, I came on here to do a quick check before I went to sleep. I’m glad I did and I saw your post. I hope my garbled responses have helped! 
I really need to go to bed now as it’s gone 2am where I am!
I hope the urges pass quickly for you, and you can crack on with whatever will be fulfilling for you for the rest of your day.
whilst dealing with the consequences of your addiction (something I did, though have been making huge progress) keeps bringing the shame back you know?
same here going to sleep too, or listen to something spiritual. Please do reply when u are up.
Take responsibility for your actions, but they’re in the past. You can’t change what you’ve done. You can only change what you’re doing right now.
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hope you had a good sleep and are feeling better. what device do you use to watch porn? is there a way to separate yourself from that device? what can you replace the porn with? walking? do you have animals? create obstacles for your use/