1.Can sex addicts get married and have a Normal sex lift with their partners ?
2.Do sex addicts stop drinking to that they can avoid being horny when drunk ?
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That’s kind of the goal for most of us. Not giving up sex altogether. But instead, embracing healthy sexuality as opposed to unhealthy addictive sexuality. There’s a big difference.
However, this is easier said than done. Lots of SAs and PAs experience sexual dysfunction in the bedroom. These problems can be overcome, but not without hard work. -
Some sex and porn addicts make it a boundary to avoid drinking. While others don’t. Each individual is responsible for setting his or her own boundaries
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I’m fairly new to tackling my sex/porn addiction, so one of my big concerns is having a healthy sex life and what that means for me. Was I having and craving kinkier and kinkier sex just because my brain was screaming out for more and more dopamine or was it something I actually enjoyed? I think this is a question that will be easier to answer once I’ve done a long spell of being sober. A big indicator (I think) is that it should be intimate and with someone who I really care about and who cares about me. If it’s meaningless hook-up style it’s probably a dopamine chase.
For your second question, like KevinesKay said it’s a personal thing, I often find I get the “hangover horn”, but this is most obvious if have no plans the following day. If I’m out the house doing something/meeting up with friends then I’m distracted, so I haven’t totally restricted alcohol.
At the end of the day, you’ll know deep down if it’s something to cut out or limit, or if you can handle it. You need to make a decision that isn’t the addict making a decision. Depends how strong your will power is, I’ve found it’s easier to remove temptation than resist temptation.