Should I continue live? Or not?
There’s nothing live for. I not see light. 112th days sobers and divorce sign paper today.
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Yes, of course, continue living. With divorce, u may not see much, or any, light now, but with one ending, other things can begin. Trust that new things will come. 
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Think of all the hot people you will be dating soon.
@Misokatsu it will be hard. Because of vows and all that. Feel like why married first place? Why with me first place all that? So why should keep live? If nobody want date Abi? Bipolar type 2? All that. There’s no way
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No matter how you think…No matter how you feel. …the matter what do you do …one day every thing will be oky
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Why is dating the standard? Why use dating to measure if life is worth living?
I don’t use dating to measure which vegetables I buy in the grocery store. I don’t use dating to measure whether I pay my rent. I buy vegetables and pay rent whether I’m dating or not.
Dating is not what makes you valuable. You are valuable because you are human, and all humans are valuable. (I know you may have trouble seeing this right now. But when you are in a room with the curtain closed, and you can’t see the sun, that doesn’t mean the sun isn’t shining.)
You have your own mountain to climb, as we all do. Each person has a unique path which is their opportunity for growth. We grow by walking the path (not by running away - running away through drugs or suicide - these are not ways to get away). We grow by asking for help, making connections (social and support connections), and walking our healthy path. We are all capable of doing this, and you are too.
Seek support through a support organization. This is a Canadian site; there are many similar sites around the world:
Ultimately life is growth. It is always growth. Plants grow. Forests grow. Life grows. You are life, so you grow. You are in a painful spot right now, but this is part of growth, and you will be stronger by walking this path and facing this challenge.
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Man hang in there. When you find yourself in a hole quit diggin. Good luck man.
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Of course you should live.
We all have difficult times in life. We all have good times in life. You are in a tough place now, but you will have a time in your future where you think it’s great to be alive.
Tomorrow could be your best day ever, but you’ll never know unless you get through today.
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I have learnt that basing the value of my life on relationships, or anything that other people are involved in is a dangerous game. When I do that I am giving them at least half the control on whether my life holds value. After my divorce I spent 4 years alone, no dating at all and it was the best choice I ever made. In those four years I was able to work deeply on who I am as a human being without anyone else. I feel that because I gave myself that time and have learned who I am, that I really KNOW the value of myself now. I will never ask myself a question like you are asking now. " Is my life worth living because some fucker left me."
Mood disorders are tricky, I also suffer with one, but it’s possible for us to have healthy amazing relationships with people so dont lose hope.
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Continue living of course. Sometimes it feels like we’re in the deep end. Such a divorce is not nothing and you are not that long in your recovery so that also entails a lot. But fight for your life because there really is a bright spot even if you don’t see it right now. Many of us have been in that pit and yet they seen the light, so have I and I have come out of that pit and really see a lot of bright spots every day. But it takes time, willpower, and the courage to ask for help. If you really want to pick up your life, you can. Let us know what exactly you run into and we can help you. Good luck!
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Hey there. Many brilliant things have been said already and I just want to chime in with my 2 cents.
A divorce is a crisis. The fact that you feel now totally hopeless and don’t see any way out (other than death), is quite human. It’s such a massive stressor that it clouds your brain and blocks out the positive. This is temporary! There is still life worth living. You matter in this world. This painful end is not the end of you.
Please be kind to yourself. You’re having it really rough right now. Please hold your sobriety at your highest priority. Without it you don’t have much else.
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Every storm runs out of rain. In 2012 I shot myself and lived. I’m now a successful business owner, family again and a 6 month old baby. I am just going through some awful painful surgery and quitting my methadone now 13 days. Life seems blah but from exp I know I’ll come out the other side and so will u. Don’t isolate like I did…force yourself, remind yourself it’s temp and in 5 years this shit won’t matter… proud of you keep it up!!!
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It sounds like you are having a really hard time right now. I know it will all get better, but that’s maybe hard for you to see right now. Hang in there! Can you maybe call a friend or family?
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You should live. Divorce is not a death sentence. I went thru divorce and yes it was hard and yes it was messy. Today I am grateful that I can be an adult about it all and still talk to my ex husband. We get along better now then we did before the Divorce. I know that it seems hopeless right now, we have to remember that when we were drinking and drugging we ruined our relationship with our spouse and everyone else. Well at least I did. I can only speak for myself. I know today that I am grateful to even be alive!! Divorce is not the end of the world. Pick yourself up and dust yourself off and hang in there!!
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I got divorced. It was devastating. It’s high on my list of most painful life experiences.
It hurt so bad I wanted to die. I contemplated it. Fortunately, I didn’t act upon it. I understand the pain.
That was 10 years ago, and I’ve had some amazing times since then.
Work on yourself.
Since I have been sober, I have been working on myself. I damaged a relationship that I thought I couldn’t live without. She cast me pretty far into the friend zone.
I’ve been working on myself since. She has been trying to reconnect.
The X wife tried to reconnect.
I’m not interested in either. I don’t need anybody to complete my life today. I think that’s the biggest gift recovery has given me.
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Thanks for sharing! 
Cypher,
The circumstances surrounding your post are personal…what I can attest to is there IS Life after divorce (Two Time Divorce Survivor). Moreover, my actions constituted most of the blame for both…
Keep living, find contentment and keep being vulnerable…(focus on events you can control)!