Should I reset?

I’ve been sober for 88 days and last night I was a designate driver for a friend at her company Christmas party. Quite a few of my “old crowd” were there and I was begged several times to take shots, even had a few bought for me without asking. I turned all the hard liquor down but after a while I agreed to let one friend pour some of her Henry’s hard orange soda in a shot glass and I’d participate in their last group toast. There was nearly no alcohol in it but I’m still not sure if I should reset…

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Thats a tricky one. Do you feel disappointed that you had a drink? Even if it was a tiny one?

Personally, I’m not disappointed at all about the consumption because I was not coping with anything and I didn’t take the opportunity to taste my favorite rum again. I am a little disappointed that I gave in ever so slightly to peer pressure. In comparison to my old habits though, I did really well for the environment. I could have had as much to drink as I wanted and for free, I also had direct access to whatever drugs I might have wanted but I had less than an oz of 3% alcohol content

I wouldn’t. I think that you did a good job of being in control and staying strong given the surroundings. My worry would be that it leads you to give in more easily next time you’re in a similar situation. But if you are certain that you won’t then I wouldn’t reset.

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Awesome for using so much self control!

This is your recovery journey and only you hold your compass and roadmap. By asking others if you should reset on something relatively minor, you give away your power and invalidate that your in control of your own outcome.

I drink Kombucha. That’s a fermented tea that has like 1% alcohol. I would hardly reset because of that… as long as it doesn’t awaken past behaviors, i say chalk it up and learn from it.

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Sounds to me like you managed it well and actually it wasn’t your want for alcohol but passivising others not to cause a scene. If you think that had there not been anybody nagging you to have a drink then you would have gone home alcohol free then you absolutely shouldn’t reset, be proud of your control and feel sorry for people who put pressure on others to drink to make their actions sit better :slight_smile:

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Thank you all! I’m not going to reset. I had full control of the situation and I actually had the opportunity to care for a friend who over indulged as well as have one of those really heavy hitting (due to his emotional and intoxicated state) conversations with another friend about his addiction. I’m gonna keep on pushing and do a little ninety day dance in a couple days! Thank again everyone! Lots of love and keep up the good work!

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The compass said forward! Yay!

Have the same question… made my mother in law a drink tonight and naturally did a taste test. Didn’t even think about it until after the sip. Currently 12 days sober which is the longest streak in 8-9 years…

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Absolutely not! Your sobriety should be based on your own intuition. Resetting because of a sip sets you up for failure and self-criticism, to be honest. I serve at a bar and grill and when we get new beers in, I will take a taste test so I can tell my guests about it. If I beat myself up for something so small, sobriety would be a battle of self-criticism. With that said, reset If you WANT to, but don’t worry about what other people say are “rules” to YOUR sobriety! Everyone’s sobriety is different :slight_smile: congrats on taking the step to getting sober

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In my opinion dont - you’ve done really well and if you dont feel disapointed why bother?

Question is did you enjoy the drink or not?

I don’t think you should , because you didn’t binged on drinking, you didn’t saw the drink as alcohol, otherwise you wouldn’t have been able to stop.

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I’ve often wondered the same thing. What is a “relapse”? Is it just a drink or is it getting drunk? I put a little wine in my cheese fondue last weekend because the recipe called for it and I wasn’t sure if it would taste right. I was not tempted to go further than that so I didn’t think I needed to hit “reset” but I did have some guilt with it. Guilt that perhaps I was kidding myself. But today I am glad I didn’t call it a relapse because I’ve been going strong since, no desire to drink.

The drink vs drank vs relapse is very controversial. I personally won’t use mouthwash with alcohol in it because it makes me feel guilty. For someone else, it wouldn’t be an issue. Some people do the near beer thing and others feel it’s wrong. You have to follow your intuition and be honest with yourself.

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