Don’t know if it’s going to be for me, but it starts in 20 minutes and I’m sitting in my car nervous as balls.
I’ve watched a few people walk in and sort of look at me with a smile, so I have no doubt that people will be nice, but the thought of talking has got me clammed now.
You don’t have to speak if you don’t want to. Just listen. They may ask if there are newcomers, I would encourage you to raise your hand and let people welcome you, it’s a nice feeling.
Its going to be okay! You can do this! Put your big girl panties on and get in there lol. You dont have to talk but like Serenity siad, introduce yourself… people will be glad you are there! Meetings are great! Let us know how it went…
Hopefully you’re in there right now. Let us know how it goes! As others have said you don’t have to say anything if you don’t want to. But as a nervous/timid/anxious person I have found great freedom in raising my hand to let people know that I am feeling nervous, shy, timid etc. It’ll only take a few seconds, and then whenever you feel awkward just remember everyone in the room already knows you feel nervous, so they’re going to be understanding. You’d be amazed how sometimes people can really pull through for you and meet you more than halfway if you tell them what you need.
It went actually pretty good it was a little religious for my taste, but I kept an open mind and found that the regulars there called each other “family”, they were super open arms with me, sharing stories, very kind and understanding people. They all had a laugh because I was the youngest by a long shot, but they we’re all still much more inviting that I originally anticipated.
I’m not a terribly shy person so I did end up sharing, but in the end I’m glad I did once my nerves cooled a bit. I think I’ll try another next week. I don’t know if it’ll be the change I’m craving, but it was fun hanging out with like minded people (even if most of them were twice my age haha)
Super cool pal!! Sounds like a good group. I can’t believe you shared!! Lol. It took me 7 or 8 meetings before I shared. I was very emotional those first few weeks.
Glad to hear!! And I love that you said you kept an open mind–that is a great attitude. You might look around for a young people’s meeting too, try some different ones. Depends where you live but I’ve seen one for young people near me on Saturday nights. I’m too old to qualify for it though, lol.
Also keep in mind that although the word God is used a lot in AA, for purposes of the steps and recovery, your Higher Power doesn’t have to be God.
So glad you went and got something out of it!
Someone in my old IOP used here water bottle as her higher power. Seriously, no joke. She said it gave her a solid object to stream all the “God stuff” into. She actually had an interesting way of viewing and morphing the higher power talk into her physical object.
One lady there made me laugh, her name was Igna, very old woman, probably European with her accent, and she said
“Some people don’t like saying they are alcoholics. They get discouraged by saying they have a ‘drinking problem’. Well, I came here to tell you that I don’t have a drinking problem…”
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“I have no problem drinking. I can down a six pack like nothing. It’s the STOPPING I have trouble with”