Tomorrow will be 6 days without alcohol and I cannot even explain the loneliness and the depression I feel!! I have always been depressed but this feeling of alienation is beyond!! All of my friends and my boyfriend drink and I feel so depressed and alone I just want to go to bed. Please tell me this will pass because what’s the point of quitting only to feel 100 times worse
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Hi!
It’s been a bit more than 6 months for me without alcohol. Why I succed so far? Cos the mindset. I failed before many times, but now it is different. What I repeat to myself to keep going is: I do it because I love myself and I deserve better, it is about loving my body and loving myself nothing else.
When I tried to stop drinking cos I felt ashame or I messed up bad or cos I was drinking everyday, I failed always. So, what I am trying to say is, have it clear why you want to stop drinking and I hope this why it is important.
I miss some drinking momements sometimes, but overall I improved a lot and I feel a lot better
Stay hard! It is worth it
Big hug!
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Thanks for the reply 
I have never been so emotionally exhausted in my life, feeling too much
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All the advice you need is already in your name. Your doing great and congrats on your 6 days.
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Emotionally you will improve too
Now I lost the reward of alcohol then I lost the anxiety for drinking. I feel calmer
You can do it!
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Then go to bed. If you really want sobriety you’re only job is not to drink. And if that means going to bed, if you can, then go to bed.
I didn’t get my bout of depression until about 5 or 6 months into my sobriety. I think we all get it at a certain point. When I had my depression I couldn’t do shit. I sat on my deck most days and just laid on my couch with my dogs. Sometimes I felt like crying. So I cried. I didn’t even work out. I want to but I just didn’t want too. I just had to feel the depression. And as far as I was concerned my only job was to NOT PICK UP. If I didn’t pick up, then I had a successful day. It did pass for me. I think it took a couple of weeks. Maybe 3. I didn’t rush it. I just let it happened. I fucking felt it. And my wife was very supportive.
Keep checking in. Hang out on TS as much as you can. Read around. Look at pet pics. Or inspirational pics of nature from all of us. Meme it up.
When you don’t drink. You win.
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Exactly 
And it sneaks up on you sometimes.
We’re fucking feeling again. We’re not self medicating. We’re living life now.
But it definitely can be very exhausting.
God bless you. Hang in there.
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Sounds like you need to surround urself with better people… We end up a product of our environment… anyone around u that does not see a problem will never understand urs. Sometimes being around these people is even more stressing in early recovery. Maybe even pausing the relationship until ur strong enough to be around drinking and drunks. In your sober mind alot of how we think and our needs /wants totally change. Things that may feel they fit now may not once you been sober a while. You will go thru alot of self reflecting and soul searching to find and understand who you really are. Just be patient … its always the hardest in the beginning but i promise it gets better!
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Just don’t pick up and you will look back and be proud of of it if like myself
Depression sucks
Drains it all
These are real feeling that alcohol or substances would hide
What I would do if I was you is a bunch of chores or if not that
Go go a walk and get something you would like to eat
Each little thing accomplished is huge
Even if its just making your bed
Don’t get upset at things today
Be easy on yourself
Do you have a AA big book or AA step book
I looooooooove my step book and this book is pretty much the most powerful learning experiences ever
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Thank you for the insight !! I had a better day today, just trying to trust the process
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Thank you so much for the advice. Yes, I went to my first meeting this week and they were so kind, just a small meeting outside of town and they gave me the AA book, the big blue one. I just started to read it
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Stay strong. You can do this 
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Thank you so much
Early sobriety causes that in the majority of us. It goes away. Just remember drinking must not be pure happiness, else you wouldn’t be here. Keep pushing forward for better things to come
I truly believe it is the newness of your not drinking. For me, as each day goes by I feel better. I am just over 6 months. Bad days here and there, but NEVER as bad as a day after with a hangover and self-recriminating thoughts. I’m sorry others around you are drinking. That is a challenge I don’t have. But removing yourself from the drinking is the way to go. Go to your room and come here or do a meeting or listen to recovery podcasts and you will do this. You can!!