I’m 9 months sober and I’m very happy to have kept my sobriety this long. But I am really struggling with other aspects of my life. I just constantly feel like I’ve fucked my life up, wasted so much time and potential, and I’m super insecure about where I’m at in my life right now. I’m really trying to get my shit together and not harp on the part or be anxious about the future but it’s very very difficult for me. I feel like such a failure and I don’t know how to get out of it.
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Have you gone to any meetings? When I was sick of feeling like that I decided to finally try AA. It taught me how to let go of my past and learn how to live life sober. Worth a try if you haven’t 
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We tend look at ourselves and compare where we are with everyone else, and that can be good, but too often, it’s bad. When it’s bad, it can cause us to ruminate of all the negative things we don’t like about our selves.
Something that can help is adapting the growth mindset.
Here’s some videos on the topic of developing a growth mindset.
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While being sober fore a while you are seeing everything clear. We tent to be very strict to ourselfs. If you are a bit like me then that made you drink as well? It was for me.
I made myself mad by feeling so insecure because I wanted the perfect me.
I couldn’t fix the past. So I try to let go of that.
I focus on the future now and chopped my wishes for it in pieces so they are more manageable.
This helped me too:
I think I’m a perfectionist and it’s also one the roots of my drinking. Recovery got me moving forward again and I still do. It’s making small steps and small victories and being proud of them all.
I feel you, it’s difficult! But give yourself some slack. You are doing great! Focus on the good and the good get’s better!
Ps I added a coach to my life for a while to get me moving out of my dark perfectionist insecure mindset. That has helped me a lot too 
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