I’m the most triggered when rejected. Thinking to never date again. Seemed like a great opportunity to share my future with someone who does not drink either but there has been an instant withdrawal and now I’m left alone and heartbroken. I really wanted to grab a bottle of wine today but I’m staying strong. Just questioning my self worth as always. No more dating.
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This is a wise choice for now. Dating can be very mentally taxing. In early recovery your focus really needs to be on you. I started dating in sobriety around 6 months in and it was waaaaaay to early. Give yourself a year, put in the self-work, and then see how you feel. Dating will be just as hard, but you’ll be able to navigate it much easier,
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Thank you. Decision has been made. I am gonna put myself on a first place😌
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Hi. 
Maybe focus on your self for a while? It could be a really interesting and positive step.
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To add to what @Englishd said; sobriety changes us. It changes our priorities, our goals and ultimately our vision and our purpose. Who you are now is not who you will be a year from now, and that’s a good thing!
Allow yourself to become who you were meant to be, then find a partner who deserves your true, authentic self!
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I agree with the other posts. I’ve been married a long time, and it can be very hard sometimes having to account for someone else’s feelings and well being when you’re trying to get sober. And this is someone I’ve been with for 26 years. I can’t even imagine starting a brand new relationship early in sobriety. This is the perfect opportunity for you to dedicate 100% of your time towards you.
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