Hi everyone. Just yesterday I did an interview to live in an oxford sober house and got in. I moved in yesterday also and I’ve been experiencing just crazy emotions. So much up and down. I feel good that I’m out of my dad’s house where there was alcohol making it harder for me to progress, but also just at times sad and depressed that it came to this in a way. I guess I just feel a little defeated that I felt I had to be in an environment removed from the triggers. Not sure how to feel sometimes either. It’s been very mentally and emotionally draining since yesterday. I just want to enjoy life while recovering, but it’s really hard sometimes
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In early sobriety our emotional, mental and physical health really needs looking after, its been neglected for a long time and will take a while to adjust back to normal.
Its really great you took the initiative to get into sober living, being around alcohol is really not helpful.
Enjoying life will come, but for now be patient with yourself. Allow yourself to feel, cry, laugh, sleep etc. Your body needs to heal.
Give yourself a break, live life ODAAT and just focus on getting thro the hour, the day, do the work and enjoyment and satisfaction it will soon start to come.
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Congratulations on your new living arrangements. I think you did something very brave here and something you should be proud of. Allow yourself to be proud of taking responsibility for your health by taking necessary steps in your sobriety journey.
We all need support and people who help us along the way into sobriety. The sober living house is a great opportunity for you. Yes, it’s emotional. Allow yourself to feel these emotions without any judgement. And then evaluate the facts and focus on the positive.
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You’re absolutely right. I’ve been battling alcohol and mental health issues a long time. I know what I’m doing now is ultimately better for me. I hear about the freedom people experience all the time in AA and while I’m happy for them I also sometimes get a little impatient for my time to come with that. Realistically I know it took all of them time though. I’m getting better at recognizing my feelings and being honest. Still a lot of work ahead of me, but I think living here will be good to teach me responsibility while I have more freedom to make my recovery what I want it to be without worrying about alcohol in the house or my dad still treating me like a child sometimes
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Thank you. I’m proud of myself, but still a little scared in a way. I want to keep seeing the progress without being held back by immediate triggers all the time so I know this is better for me. As soon as I got here my car overheated too so now my new roommate has been helping to fix the issues. Super grateful for that though. I’m not good with cars so it’s incredible to be instantly connected with someone who is. Just trying to stay as positive as I can, but hard to be positive constantly
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Have you been able to see a Dr regarding your mental health? I know when I stopped drinking I really needed a review of medications and new one prescribed.
Often our depression rears its ugly head when we get sober and needing some help is ok, its just a helping hand thats all.
Ive never done AA so i cant speak for ‘AAers’ but when I had some sober time (1yr ish) good mental health care and support from sober people(here) I really started to see the light at the end of the tunnel, and it wasn’t a train 
so hang in there.
Yeah I see a psychiatrist for medication management and a therapist every week. AA has been the biggest help for me though honestly. It’s how I found this house actually. Through people in the rooms. I’ll get through it, but I know I’m still gonna have a lot of ups and downs more than likely for a while
Im glad you’re being looked after.
Don’t forget we are in your pocket if you need us! 
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You don’t have to be positive all the time. All feelings and emotions are valid. You have to learn to accept the dark things and negative emotions, and learn behaviours to deal with the shitty stuff in life without reaching for your DOC. You are on the right path here.
Keep on going ODAAT 
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