Hi all
Today was my first year sober from drinking and its just every milestone i stay sober is wonderful but for me my family likes to make a big deal When i mean big DEAL calling and texting non stop ! ive never been the type i need that attention like its a big deal ! To me its more stressful on my sobriety . To me deciding to get my act and life together and admitting i had a problem meant more to myself theb i feel like them .To me my Soberity is just for today and can be easily taken as it was given . I dont like when my family acts like its a BIG DEAL . Its stressful to me amd i get it some people need that attention but it stressful to me when people give that attention to me that i dont need ! Thoughts am i over thinking or reacting?
Congratulations are in order. Keep it going!
Congratulations on 1 year sober. 1 year sober is a big deal and your loved ones are proud of you, grateful to have you back I’m sure. It could be worse right??? Your family could’ve disowned you. Just control what you can and stay sober for today 
Well, Eric, now let me make a big deal out of your one year sober anniversary!! Congratulations!!
Congrats! In my opinion this is a milestone to celebrate! You should be proud, after a while ppl will forget about your milestones, enjoy the now. ODAAT
I do see where you’re coming from in a way. I’m pretty close to a year myself and while that is awesome, I also feel like it’s just another day. Another day living sober, the way I should’ve been living the entire time. I’m grateful for each one I get. Keep moving forward friend 
I understand not wanting to be in the spotlight and be celebrated for something we mainly chose to do for ourselves. And it can be stressful to get all this attention and praise and maybe the feeling of pressure that comes with it? At least that’s how I felt in my first year. Today, two years in, I have watched so many people fall off the wagon, that I actually start to see how extraordinary it is to work yourself out of addiction the way we did. And I think our loved ones also have a more or less specific idea of the battles we fought. They simply wish us well and milestones are a good moment in time to express love and appreciation for the journey we’ve been on.
I get it, that could feel like a lot of pressure or it could feel like they are trying to make your accomplishment their news.
On the record, one year is pretty amazing. Go for 366! Well done.
Congratulations are in order. Maybe speak to your family and friends and explain it to them. They could celebrate by lighting a candle or planting a seed in honor of your achievements 
I wanna say thanks for the venting alil and just getting it off my chest .yesterday was stressful somewhat because of that … it feels like a pressure and stress situation when they feel the need to talk to me like a child and be like oh such a great job ! To me its just another day and sticking to my routine from my spouse she will say something to me around my milestone time but she gets me its not a big deal and toss me in the spolight .dont get me wrong its im greatful for everyday i have my sobriety ! Thanks for the advice and i will definitely have to use it ;
it stressful to me
I also had mixed feelings at my early anniversaries. In part, I didn’t want to jinx it as I felt 1) I hadn’t really done anything special and 2) what if I screwed it all up and relapsed? I came to learn that 1) it is special, a miracle even, when a drunk like me stays dry and happy for even a day and 2) that was my alcoholic thinking pattern and my desire to not be personally responsible.
Today I treasure each sober morning and I thank my higher power for it. I regard my milestones as beacons for others on the same road - if it can happen for me then it can happen for them. 
I understand very well. To my mind, celebrations and congratulations are for special, rare things, and what I want most for myself and for my loved ones is that sobriety becomes my normal, my “that’s just how I roll”, nothing remarkable. And I’m afraid I also entertain this vague feeling that they’re elated for me because they didn’t think I could do it (not in a mean way, more in a having seen me struggling way). This part I don’t like.
But I really can’t control how others view my sobriety, and yes, I can accept that for some others, what I’m doing, and what I have achieved ARE actually special, rare things (and for me, they definitely are, when I think how much I’ve struggled). I guess I just have to focus on myself, on working on me and trying to improve my life daily. From a different perspective, every single sober day is a celebration of sorts, as others have said above. And I’m also counting on the novelty of milestones wearing off for my loved ones. 