Bored. I’m so bored. Not just because I’m not drinking. I mean, I’m actually bored with my life. Now that I’m sober, the people I’m used to think were fun and funny are boring. Going out to bars where everyone is getting drunk and “having fun” is boring. Seeing as same people in the same situations is boring.
I feel like I’m Bill Murray in the real life version of Groundhog Day.
Friends reference: I understand why “Fun Bobby” became extremely dull Bobby, lol.
Is this common? Can alcohol distort reality that much What have you guys done to rejuvenate your life now that you’re sober?
Theres so much more to life than drinking I think I posted about it before might find it later. Alcohol makes you think youre having fun but really your just being boring.Couldnt agree more.
Your old life is boring. Its time to start your new life. My husband and I have had so much fun! We are out in the daytime. We no longer sleep the entire sunday. We go get vitamin d. We aren’t even doing anything overly special, but we are out enjoying each others company. And remembering it. We have been making it to a lot of charity things, though. Trying to better the world, one sober outing at a time.
Right??? Alcohol is servery deceiving. Living in the resort town where I do, going out with a full time musician - I’m tired of seeing the same drunk people, having the same drunk conversations, hearing the same songs: when I was drunk I never realized it but now that I’m sober it’s like wtf…this isn’t fun anymore, these people aren’t funny, these conversations I’ve heard a million times because people forget they’ve already told me are not interesting. Ug
Yeah i kinda went through this today. I went out to a brunch then a bar and watched everyone drink. I talked to a lot of people but It was so BORING! i felt like i have been isolating myself from everyone and constantly skipping birthdays so i went.
I am beginning to think my hobbies were drinking and thats it?
I thought in your earlier posts that this’d be one probable outcome - based upon your boyfriend’s profession and your mutual enjoyment of the bar and bar crowd, which ties in with his profession.
And of course it’s an ongoing problem, they’re not all going to become teetotal, it sounds like your boyfriend (although being supportive) is relatively happy, so you are a square peg, you are Phil, the weatherman.
You’re astute, what is the answer @Brookiemonster618?
You are really seeing yourself and life in a different way I’m proud of you. Stay open keep searching you going to like what you find. @Brookiemonster618
I know, I feel like a totally different person. I have a completely different perspective and outlook on everything. I didn’t think I would feel this drastically different. It’s scary and part of me doesn’t like it but the other part of me loves it. I can’t explain it.
I totally understand this. Like, I’m still in the very beginning of my recovery & it’s hard for me to think anything I do will be fun w/o alcohol. As for fixing this, I don’t know the answer yet, but you’re not alone. Hang in there! Good luck!
So great hearing this if you can And I Know You Can stand up strong to all of this change coming. What ever feelings come with it face them head on. This is so good these are the best moments in my sobriety. When I see or hear someone start to see that light of change in there sobriety. That light is the demons darkness weakening, the more you’re open to it the brighter it becomes. This has happened in my recovery it still does.
And to answer your question from before. What am I doing to keep me from being bored. Every weekend I set a goal to do one thing, may not seem like an exciting thing. But if I accomplish that one thing it means something. I’m in control of my life enough were I can say I’m going to do it, and it gets done. I’m doing other things “we are all different in life” but I’m doing something other then drinking. And you will figure what makes you happy You Will. Your on the right path it will be boring if you let it. But I don’t think you’ll let it and I think you want things to change. I’m cheering you on.
It’s actually very funny… Sober life is boring? Hehe.
I’m more aligned with sober life is freedom. I no longer plan things around drinking. I can actually do whatever I want… no longer I’m I nursing a hangover or waiting to sober up to drive. My bank account is extremely full. I can actually shop! I’m no longer spending $200-300 a weekend at a bar. Buying shots for total strangers or making those insane purchases online for things I would never by sober. No more silly apple purchase for games I delete. The list goes on, and on!
My gym membership is no longer being wasted. I lost 20lbs, and benched 295lbs for the first time in my life!
For some reason I do find myself volunteering and giving back to the community.
Yes it can, I have found that with my addiction to opiates I dealt with things and people better, now that I am clean I find everything annoying and i also feel bored with my life in general.
@Shattered_dreams I didn’t mean to imply sober living is boring. A sober life itself is definitely not boring once you truly get to know yourself and discover new interests and realize that you’re being much more productive with yourself. But being sober makes the life you had boring. For me, I always went to my boyfriends gigs or hung out in bars, the local community in my town is extremely small, and EVERYONE who lives here uses it as an excuse to drink all the time. Living in a resort town is very different than living somewhere else. When the winter season hits and the tourists go away, it’s like a ghost town. So now, going to his gigs or out to bars, seeing the same local people in the same local bars, having the same local conversations - it’s boring. The majority of locals in this town are either waitresses or bartenders and the activity of choice is to drink. I mean people who just came down here to work a summer job at 18 are still full time bartenders and waitresses at 60. So now that I am sober, it doesn’t appeal to me. My “old life” doesn’t appeal to me. My boyfriend’s and the local’s way of living doesn’t appeal to me.
@Brookiemonster618. I can totally relate to your sentiments. It’s a change in thinking! I think anyone who chained themselves in addiction is ready to break those shackles. I even get what you are are talking about with your tourist town, but I think in a way you describe a lot of middle America too(without tourists). I live in a very rural area. The only night entertainment is one local bar. I welcome school starting back up for the opportunity to watch sports. I drive 30 miles to Walmart or the movies and that’s 30 miles of corn, wheat, and sorghum. So yes life can be a struggle to fall back into the old routine and accepting it as the greatest thing since bubble gum. But I have decided to just schedule enough me things / time in a month to not accept the old standbys. I have different motivation as you for some of my time but what can you find to shake up routine? Just have enough patience with yourself to not rush major decisions. It’s refreshing to see the way recovery is opening your eyes.
I remember looking back when I was using and looking at my family and others at their lives and how much fun they were always having, then thinking to myself…“I wish I could be apart of all of it”. Always missing out on the good times hoping one day it would be my life. Now I am having the time of my life without the chaotic horrible lifestyle I was living. Its much greener on the sobriety side. So grateful!!
I feel kinda lame sometimes when friends hit me up to hang out but I just… don’t really want to? Anytime after midnight I would rather be curled up in bed with a book. I have no desire to deal with drunkenness. Idk. I am a lot less social since my sobriety.
