During my years of drinking, I always found a way to isolate myself from my social groups, mainly so I could drink alone in my apartment. Before alcohol, I was always ready to socialize and be with people. Now that I’m 5 months sober, I’ve tried making more of an effort to become social again, but I still get that urge to avoid it. I feel guilty because I miss being that social butterfly I once was. I’m gonna keep trying, but can anyone relate?
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Learning to be social again takes time Marcus.
Just stay sober, keep putting in the effort, drop the guilt and you’ll be fine.
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I feel ya. I am in the same boat, between years of solo drinking, my anxiety, and the pandemic I’ve gotten very comfortable letting myself avoid a lot of social situations. It is hard at first, and I get pretty anxious, but overall it’s worth it and it does get easier once you find your way back to people.
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I can relate with not knowing how to socialise sober. For me, I was an awkward socialiser to start, and tried to hide it with alcohol and just made it worse. But sober I can actually follow conversations, think of questions, recall previous talks, far better than I did when drunk. I also don’t have that excruciating “I don’t remember our last interaction, but I know it was bad” feeling hanging over me.
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