How do you tell two of your biggest supporters that they trigger you and make you want to relapse because they stress you out too much?
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Maybe try a meeting might help you they helped me stay sober ,lots of support there wish you well
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One quick tool is the serenity prayer. The line asking for âcourage to change the things I canâ generally meant to me that I could change my reaction to the situation. I take it you live with these people, they mean well but overstep. What different thoughts can you have about it? What new actions can you take? Rayâs suggestion is a great one - find a support network outside the family, and meetings of AA or NA are great places to start. I would be nowhere without the wisdom and fellowship I experience at AA meetings.
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Welcome to the forum
Part of recovery is learning to deal with stressful situations. Stress can trigger us to relapse but we canât blame others we have to take responsibility for our recovery and having new ways to deal with that stress, exercise, time out, reading etc⌠will only be good for us.
Having an open conversation with your family about what is causing you to be stressed out and explaining what you need is all you can really do to help them see what your feeling. Then having an outlet for the stress thats healthy is another way to strengthen your sobriety.
Youâll get through this.
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We are responsible for our own relapses. We canât blame others for that.
One of the best things I did was reframe my thoughts.
Say something caused me to feel stressed or annoyed or angry etc, my initial thought was âdamn, I need a drinkâ . That was an automatic response but really, it wasnât the answer, it was just the first thing that came to mind and I accepted it.
Really, what I I was feeling was âdamn, I donât want to feel angry, or stressed or upset etc, I donât want to feel how I am feeling right nowâ. Then , from there, think about a logical thing that can help you change how you are feeling. That logical thing will not be your drug of choice, because our drug of choice has never been the solution to any of our problems, ever!