I’ve run out of spoons…. How do I gain more spoons to be productive during the week and still have enough to feel and have some energy on your days off? Working at McDonald’s is spoon heavy and to have to do it every day causes me to crash and be super low come Sunday.HELP!!!
Why and I still crashing after 40 days of sobriety? It’s been a very low day and I have no energy or spoons left to do anything.
My husband wants to do things that I just don’t have the energy for and he doesn’t seem to understand… I’m literally -45 spoons and still have to be productive and function.
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Ahh i totally get it. It can be incredibly hard to find balance when it comes to energy and where to place that energy. I also suffer from fatigue. Happened alot more often in early recovery also. But i still get tired, almost like i never have enough energy to get everything done. Sometimes, if possible, taking little self care breaks help. I had to literally make time for myself to have these breaks bcuz if i didnt, i would never normally do this. Other things would always take priority. Sounds like ur exhausting urself with task after task 
burn out can definitly happen when theres no down time. I hope that u can maybe do something with hubby thats more relaxing and low key, and that he understands.
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I haven’t done much today except laundry. I’m just exhausted maybe another bubble bath is in order but now I think it’s too late and I should just go to bed.
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Rest is certainly important. Some days doing laundry is good enough honestly 
We are human, not robots that can keeping going n going (altho sometimes i wish i were lol)
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I’ve been having Sundays off only too. Man I swear even when I had 2 days off even after vacation 11 days seems like there’s never enough rest I’m always exhausted no joke. At 40 days I was still not in the best place mentally so maybe that is playing a part. At 8 months for me I’m still mentally getting it together. Idk if you’re able to sit you’re hubby down and have a sincere conversation if you have already I’m sorry. Sometimes a partner may not understand it does happen. My normie ex definitely didn’t understand my situation and I copped a resentment for it after awhile. Anyways I hope things get a little easier for you I tend to sleep all the time not the best idea cuz I do it to a fault lol. Just hold on stay sober and keep pushing unfortunately life doesn’t stop when we get sober but none of us are alone take care 
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You can’t pour from an empty cup. Finding time and making time to renew your mind, body and soul isn’t selfish. It’s self care. When you are taking care of yourself you have more capacity to be available for others. No is a complete sentence. It’s hard to change our ways when we have been people pleasers, workaholics, alcoholics, addicts, etc. But nothing changes if nothing changes. Make one small change today and add as needed. Do something today your future self will thank you for.
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Grant yourself some grace. Not sure you long you struggled with your addiction. However, I bet 40 days is a drop in the the bucket as far as time is concerned. Give it time, it does get better
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