2 days nothing to drink. He didn’t even notice until I had to point it out. Then he said don’t worry fucktard you will be drinking tomorrow night. It infuriates me, he has no idea that this isn’t easy for me and all he does is verbally make me feel completely worthless. His snide remarks only push me to wanting to drink more. Any advice from anyone who has been through this?
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Oh my. Fucktard? My husband resents me; mostly ignores me, gives me disgusted looks, and is overall negative and critical of everything I do… but I can’t imagine being called that. Stay true to you, remember that his acting out is really a reflection of how he feels about himself, and stay sober. Chances are, he is afraid that you might come to the conclusion that he might not deserve you.
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You got some good stuff from everyone else. I’ll just say keep doing what you’re doing. If you keep approving of yourself then others will follow suit. And most importantly, don’t ever a Drink at Someone. You said this just makes you wanna drink, but what will that really solve?? It won’t make you feel better about yourself. It won’t make you win.
Just keep doin what ya doing! Because that is the miracle here. Those first days are the hardest and you are doing it!! Congrats on 2 days pal😊
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Hurt people hurt people. It’s going to take time and depending on the situation it may take a lot of time. Keep taking care of you and be proud of yourself. This is your journey the only person you need to seek validation from is you!
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I wasn’t looking for a praise from him and had decided to start this journey without him even knowing. It was the moment when he just started complaining and blaming everything on alcohol, making the comments I can’t get right cold medication for our son because I’ve been drinking…it just hurt because I didn’t drink and could have so easily but made the choice not to. He said I drank yesterday and I didn’t then either. Just hurtful while I’m already starting one of the hardest missions I have in years to combat this issue
OMG I’m dying right now 
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Haha. Then he was done! He killed his own boner with that “dirty talk”
I ex husband and i drank together. It was always ok for him to do so, but he criticized me for it. The things he said to me…
Many times i tried to ‘lay off the booze’ and he would come home with a case of beer and preceed. He was a total hypocrite. The more he drank, the more awful his verbal jabs got. I would cave, drink just to tollerate the abuse.
When my mothrr died, the night before her funeral after i spent all day writing her eulogy, he came home from the bar to tell me what a selfish cunt i was. That moment i said no more and i tossed him out. I continued to use booze for every negative emotion since then. Now i have a guy whom rarely drinks, never has been drunk, whom i confessed how bad my drinking has gotten…i thought him of all people will call me nasty things because he really doesnt understand the struggle. He did the opposite. He supported me, he reassumed me it was going to be ok, that this is just something we will get through together. Not once did he make me feel like a shity person for my mistakes. It empowered me to stay sober, made me feel like i was worth saving. From my expeirience, him tearing you down is only going to make this harder. I learned that some people actually prefer that thier partner is a “mess” so they have someone to pick on and they feel better about themselves.
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Great share! Thank you for posting that😊
Buckle down and keep going every day full speed ahead in sobriety. Time will make things better, at least in how you react to things. Youll come to understand that unless someone has fought an addiction themselves theyll never understand what it takes to fight your deepest darkest demons head on everyday and come out alive.Its REAL strength.
So feel good in the knowledge that 2 days is freaking amazing. One day at a time.
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