I hear you. That sounds frustrating for you, which is understandable. It sounds like you are finding sobriety as a value add to your life and he may be seeing it as giving up something…which is also understandable…we aren’t always on the same page, even if we want to be.
For me, it was really important to separate my desire for sobriety from my husband’s actions and his drinking (or not). That was not easy at all and it took me a LONG time to be able to work my sobriety and recovery despite his still drinking. What helped me was really focusing on what I could control (whether or not I drank) and letting go of what I could not control (his drinking). That involved a lot of talks and anguish and me heading to bed early when he was still drinking…it was rough, no lie.
Before I write a book on that, I will share these threads I put together and hopefully they will resonate with you a bit. Please know you are not alone in this…and that you can get sober with a partner who drinks. 
Does your partner still drink? Some threads you may find helpful