I have the feeling your wife and I would get along. Her pasta positivity is charming as is her insouciance. Unfortunately, I no longer drink. I am a non drinker.
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You look so great why would you go back for, blech, vodka. Like drinking kerosene!
Haha for real!! I’d take a sparkling water any day over that garbage. Plus. It is 520 pm and he just fell asleep… I don’t want any parts of feeling like that. But on the plus side. The house is quiet and relaxing now.
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And thank you for the compliment!!!
I love it when my husband’s asleep and I get to do whatever I want. Enjoy!
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it is quit peaceful! Time to play with my kiddo. My favorite part of being sober!
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Good for you! Glad to hear you and the kiddo are enjoying some time 
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1.5 days this time. I opened up the liquor cabinet…hoping he would have cleaned it out. But no. Last time he continued to drink. I told him it was ok. But it wasn’t. He works shift work starting tomorrow & I’ll be on my own. Used to look forward to those nites alone to drink. Now I’m looking forward to being alone and not drinking.
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had to leave a 10 year relationship. he continues to slowly kill himself with Alcohol and Cigarettes. we are still friends. I call him my Bex. but I can’t be there everyday to deal with his negativity and depression…I have waited a year for him to join me in this sober life but he won’t.
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Y’all!!! Last time I posted in October my husband was spiraling. Well. It’s been years of excessive drinking… every day or at least every weekend the past year he would vow to stop drinking… that was actually my ‘Christmas present’ that I never truly received. I honestly stopped believing it would actually happen. I didnt push it. It had to be on his terms… well. He had a rock bottom moment last weekend and it’s been five whole days for him. This time seems different. I am hopeful and very proud of him!
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That would be awesome. You doing the right thing being an example for him. Not much else you can do except pray. 
I hope you get your Christmas present.
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I hope I get my Christmas present too. It has been so nice and peaceful and… home feels like a healthy environment for the first time in a long time. Thanks for the well wishes. You are always so supportive @Dazercat
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Aww. Thanks.
My wife quit drinking gin.
So we got that going for us over here. She just drinks wine now. Probably too much but she isn’t asleep on the couch right after dinner anymore. 
I guess our good examples rub off a little. And as long as we are safe we can only be responsible for our sobriety. Have a great weekend.
It’s always a pleasure to weigh in on sober spouse. Sometimes I don’t know how we do it.
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You are a total inspiration. So awesome. It has been extremely difficult. Especially when I am trying to focus on my mental health. But so refreshing that the tone has changed
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That’s great news Katie! You lead by example and now he’s following. Regarding your Christmas present, I say better late than never especially in this situation. My hubby is an alcoholic and I struggled for over a year with his continued drinking and lying. Now that he’s sober, our lives have made a 180. I actually enjoy his company these days. I’m cheering you both on from the sidelines.
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I never get tired of reading this Lisa.
Happy for ya.
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Thank you, Eric. I had my doubts for a long time but I’m glad I listened to people and stuck it out. If it weren’t for the support I had, I would have left after 6 months.
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Leaving him hasn’t crossed my mind until recently when he started blaming me for him going to the store. I left for an hour, the dishes needed done… I’ve heard him loud and clear though and on top of my already full plate I’ve stepped up on doing his ‘chores’ to help take the edge off as he goes through the motions.
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I am 10 months sober. My husband still drinks. Somehow it doesn’t bother me. At first, I was holding on, white knuckle, etc. He did quit drinking vodka, my alcohol of choice. He drinks red wine which I never did. Maybe that helps. I don’t know. He is always congratulating me, asking how he can help. Congrats on your 15 days! You are doing this for you!
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