Ok so I started my step 1 one week ago and I did six questions a couple a day as suggested but then I allowed excuses of “I’ll do more tomorrow” or “I’ve got my daughter I can’t do it today” I’m very uncomfortable with this default mechanism it pisses me off that I’m not using anymore but still have the “let’s not do it atm mindset” .It’s not just in step work it’s quite a few small things like packing stuff away that’s annoying me and putting things out that are new ( my daughter made me some Lego figures to keep and their still in the box !! If its upsetting me so much why do I keep putting off doing it ??
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It takes time to change these patterns, we spend years getting in to them but expect them to change as soon as we stop using, unfortunately it doesn’t work like that. Set some time aside to do it and don’t falter, that’s how you begin to change, much love🙏
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I’ll set a time of 10 Am today and I’ll do itBuilding new habits is difficult and will always feel uncomfortable at the start. You might ask yourself what is the smallest possible step towards my goal that feels doable to me? If you still feel so much resentment towards that step that you don’t do it as planned, then the step is still too big. Think smaller. Build habits out of very small steps.
In the end it does not matter if you need 70 or 700 steps as long as you actually go the distance.
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Thank you @acromouse ill take that advice! I think I’ve got a lot of trauma surrounding losing everything that the new things I gain are hard to navigate and be comfortable with (scary shit)
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As others have mentioned, it does take time to build new habits. I used to procrastinate alot (oddly enough step work was one of those things). I think with regards to step work, i procrastinated bcuz it was touching on a sensitive subject. Some steps brought out alot of emotion in me and i guess at times i wasnt prepared to feel that.
But scheduling a day and time to complete tasks is useful. I find making a list helpful too. The night before i make a To Do list on my phone of things that need to be taken care of the following day. Ill set a time to do them (almost as if its an appt that needs to be met) and then follow thru with it the next day. I find it helps 
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Thank you @Butterflymoonwoman ill try that if I get into a routine it might help with my default setting 
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What helps me very much is cutting down a task in many many little tasks, even as small as putting away 1 piece of laundry or writing down 1 thought. Only one. That’s enough. Every day 1 minitask adds up quickly.
Keep going, babystep by babystep.
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It helped me to do my step questions first thing in the morning. I woke up 45 minutes early, got my coffee and my notebook and wrote. I can procrastinate with the best, and this helped break my reluctance to start.
My worst bit of stalling came on step 4 (no surprise there), I whined about “having trouble with the step” in meetings for about a month, got sick of hearing myself and one Tuesday went home and started writing.
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Thank you I’ve set myself a time of 10 Am every morning .mornings are when I’m most productive and not busy with life stuff sobriety s a busy affair lol 
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