Hi, I’ve been smoking weed in the evenings consistently for about 3/4 years. I personally find it enjoyable, I don’t drink or smoke cigarettes and as the years go by it really doesn’t do much to me at all. Recently stopped cold turkey, on day 15- a lot of struggles in my life at the moment; how is peoples journeys ? I would really like one this evening, been at the hospital with our daughter, but I don’t want to lose the 15 days, but is it even something to be ashamed of. Sometimes i think this journey creates more hardship than benefit.
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Welcome to the forum! Congratulations on 15 days!! Thats awesome! Obviously u have ur reasons for quitting, otherwise u wouldnt be on this forum for support 
. I think its really important to remember those reasons bcuz our addict thinking will try to convince us that we can have just one, or that it will be different this time, or that theres some benefit to having it in our lives. I think thats whats happening for u to today. U said u want one but dont want to lose ur 15 days. To me that sounds like an internal battle going on between ur addict thinking and ur true self.
The journey isnt easy (especially in early recovery). It can be incredibly hard when we first quit bcuz we are removing something thats been a part of our lives for many years. Sobriety does however get easier over time! Once we develop healthier coping skills, we dont get the urge to engage in our addictions.
I would suggest just pushing thru the urge to have one and stay clean and sober. Dont ruin ur 15 days over something that really serves no good purpose. The idea that it helps, is truly a lie (at least in my opinion).
Glad ur here and hope to see u posting more
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Like Butterfly pointed out, there’s a reason you quit. 
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Something to be ashamed of? I personally don’t think so.
Something that you want to cut out of your life? Personal decision.
If I were to make a suggestion, it would be to continue abstaining until you have at least 2-3 months under your belt and reassess from a more objective vantage point that isn’t being as heavily influenced by craving or psychological “this is how I relax" habits. If it is easy to make it to 2-3 months, great. You may decide to keep going on without it or to continue using. If it is really hard to make it that far, you may have to start asking yourself some more difficult questions about whether you want to continue to reinforce the habit. I think of addiction kind of like a rut caused by a wagon wheel: pass over it a few times and the ground mostly looks the same. Pass over it 100, 1000+ times and it becomes a deep groove that can be hard to steer out of even if you try.
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Hey. I’m day 22 off weed, and have been trying to get sober from it for at least consistently two years. Before this, I was just basking in the addiction.
Weed is … damn. Its annoying and insidious, because it really affects one’s life in negative ways, we are dependent on it, which means we don’t develop our abilities and we navigate life in a haze, which leads to negative consequences. But we also minimize it and “its not a big deal” it, even glorify its medicinal properties (when we have zero medical reason to use it).
Aside from counting days and not wanting to lose count, its also about understanding why you want off weed, what life you want for yourself, building ways to make yourself the thing that copes, not the weed.
Best of luck.
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Welcome. I like to say I’m a recovering stoner. I smoked/ingested weed almost daily for a decade. After many different attempts, tricks, trials and errors, I’m on day 334 of sobriety. Literally could not do it without this forum.
You are worth the effort it takes to heal. You can and will do this!
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Ye I think I found weed the hardest thing to quit tbh - they say it isn’t addictive - but it stays in your system for months so unlike eg cigarettes it takes a long time to ween off it - and the negatives aren’t usually as dramatic as alcohol for example so it can be easy to become demotivated
My suggestion would be to grab a notebook and write down why you wanted to quit in the first place (I’m guessing being able to be there for your daughter is important to you - and I’m my XP weed is not so much a stress reliever as it just makes you not care - I know that has been really unhealthy for my relationships when I was using) but also, write down things you want to do with your free time now you’re not smoking weed every night? It really helps to have a creative outlet or hobby to distract you and help build new neural pathways that form healthier habits - and like, I wasted 15-20 years getting stoned and playing video games - if I’d picked up a guitar or a paintbrush or w/e instead, id be really good by now, y’know?!
There are a lot of good reasons to quit - write em down do you don’t forget, and try doing something more interesting instead
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I’m on 4 months off weed.
Many times over the past 4-5 years, I have felt the need to moderate, and then not been able to do so. Red flag!! And so I decided to just quit, because then I don’t have to make any other decisions, just yes or no.
I have had a couple instances recently where I was like, oh, this would be so much better if I was high. But those thoughts went away pretty quickly because it’s been several months of practicing.
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Congratulations on your 4 months of sobriety! I am at 3 days THC free (I am mostly focused on alcohol sobriety). I’m not sure yet what my goals are, but similar to the advice I gave in the post you replied to, I figured I would take a break for a while and reassess with more distance between myself and the habit.
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