Hi everybody. I’ve been struggling so much with these urges of wanting to masturbate to porn. I recently went ten days without it until yesterday. Yet again, I’m having urges and I’m afraid I’ll fail. I wanted to go another ten days. I want to stop failing my girlfriend. Does anybody have some advice?
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Hi @Mr.Cheeze I have no personal aduve but there are so many that will @Matt bei g one of many, your not alone here my friend, read through the threads get yourself accustom to the app.
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Hi @Mr.Cheeze I’m sorry to hear about your struggle. Andre (RetainKingII) gives some great advice above.
You are born with energy and potential. Porn is a waste of that. Use everything you can to get away from that: blockers, support groups, changing your routine. One big help for me in the early days was I traded in my smartphone for a flip phone. Yes it’s harder to text but everything else is simpler - no more temptation to open up inappropriate sites or time wasting social media. It keeps it simpler for me.
You’re running from something; you’ve got some kind of emotional choke point that you’re escaping, using porn for the distraction. You’re gonna have to grit your teeth and push through. Switch it up: walking, audiobooks, exercise, etc etc. There are so many good things you can do with your time.
Some people say they do PMO before sleep but it’s not helpful at all actually. The simple truth is sleep will come to you when you need to sleep. If you can’t sleep, get out of bed and do some sketching, or some walking, or some _____ - whatever you’d like to pass some time. Try again later when you’re tired again. Eventually the sleep will come. Always.
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