Going to a wedding here soon and there will be an open bar. Any suggestions on how to prepare for that and being repeatedly asked if I need a drink?
I plan to keep reminding myself, I know I can’t have just one and I want to remember this wedding, not blackout, and feel good in the morning.
Any other tips?!?!
Is not going an option? I know it sucks to miss such a wonderful event, but when we’re newly sober, sometimes it’s the best option 
It’s all about the pregnancy principle in early sobriety. Take really good care of yourself and your sobriety. Not going is a great option. If you do go, I would tell people you aren’t drinking. Have a sober buddy there if possible.
Having a plan is an awesome first step!
Make a plan for what you will drink. Club soda with a twist? Soft drink?
Make sure you are not hungry or thirsty when you arrive. If that means some extra snacks that day, then so be it. Include protein in that plan to actually keep you from being actively hungry.
Have a plan for what you will say. “I’m not drinking these days”. Or “no thanks, I’m fine for now “. Practice that with someone ahead of time. Especially practice how you will answer as people get drunk over the day or evening.
Keep your phone nearby and have quick access to this community. Check in here regularly and let us know how you are doing. You can have a virtual cheering section!
Plan various exit strategies. Plan one for if you are feeling very tempted. Get out quick!
Plan one for yourself in regards to your companion. If your companion wants to stay when you want or need to go, that could bring trouble.
Plan one that will assure you can keep close to your normal bedtime routine.
Mostly plan for anything you can anticipate. Will you run into people who are not good for you? Will your family and companion be able to be supportive of you if they are drinking? Will you be able to recognize your risks as the day goes by?
If all that planning seems possibly unsuccessful, then consider developing a headache right after the ceremony and exit yourself from the situation. The people getting married are hopefully focused on their moment and the others who are partying too much won’t be thinking of what you need very much. This is the time for careful decisions on your part.
I’m interested in how it goes for you. Next summer my son is getting married and I’m already thinking about how I will manage the multiple scenarios of that event and my sobriety. I come from a family where weddings cause drinking to be crazy. My whole family is a bit out of control in that and the various in-law and ex husband family dynamics will be an interesting navigation for me.
I wish you the best!
If you MUST go.
Always have your own drink in your hand.
Find little escapes to collect yourself and get away from it.
Have an escape plan.
Good luck.
Start a check-in thread here, before going. During the reception, regularly check in here, for accountability and encouragement.
Get a fat rubber band and write your days on it. Whenever you get the urge or temptation presents, look at the days, and give the band a snap on our wrist. Both a visual and physical reminder of your sobriety.
If not going is not an option, as mentioned above: plan ahead.
A few tips that worked for me going to places where everyone was drinking:
As soon as you get there, get a non-alcoholic drink in your hand. Sparkling water and cranberry juice with lime or 7up with lime were some of my go-tos. When it’s empty, ask for a refill of your soda at the bar. No one will bother asking if you have something in your hand.
Have a mantra. For me, it was “I don’t want one glass. For me, one is three, and three is 10” This kept me aware that I didn’t want to have the first drink because I knew where that would end
If it starts getting to you, have an exit plan. It’s absolutely fine to either take a break or leave early. You’ll be happy about it the day after. I had a few excuses (if necessary), like I need to train tomorrow early or I have to prepare for an important work presentation…
Hope it all goes well. Keep the app with you, if you need support from us 
If you must go, give the bartender a nice tip when you get there and tell them to make sure you have a non alcoholic drink in hand at all times.
Speaking from experience, doing weddings sober can be tough. Like the others have said…consider not going. If you’re really committed to your sobriety it should be the one of the most important things in your life at the moment.
That being said, I totally get that sometimes you have to go. Make sure you always have a non alcoholic beverage in your hand. That way people will be less likely to keep asking you if you want a drink. Also just keep playing the tape forward…think about what will happen if you have “just one”. Think about how awesome the next morning will be when everyone else is in pain and you feel great. Most importantly, have fun!
It’s been said many times, but is worth repeating. Easiest way to not drink at an open bar is not be at an open bar. Weddings are not necessities in life unless it’s yours (if it’s yours you have the power to not have alcohol at all) so not going is the best option.
Like everyone else here i suggest going to the wedding and not the reception if possible.