I’m over here, struggling. I feel like I’m on the edge of making decisions to either keep on the path or hop off. I’m hoping just venting here will help me some.
I’ve had a great day and all… but damn. I’m lonely and tired atm. Half of HALT certainly isn’t helping.
Hugs to you
May I suggest to take a hot shower, eat something, go to bed and put on some meditation music or breath meditation. Close your eyes and breath, you are safe and sober
I find making a pros/cons list helps when I’m teetering between two possible decisions! One list for each option often helps bring even more illumination to how I feel about both options!
Glad you’re expressing how you feel honestly, venting by itself can be so helpful!
Sorry you’re feeling lonely not a good feeling at all .
I find this group very helpful just for finding like minded individuals to chat to even if it is online it’s something. And it builds relationships through hobbies and interests as-well as a shared sober journey.
Hang in there, friend. Don’t make a decision you will most certainly regret tomorrow!! I find listening to AA podcast - the stories especially - really helpful when I need to distract. There are a lot of great and entertaining speakers out there. Maybe that’s something you would give a try?
Don’t think about the rest of your life today just tackle today. Can you make it to the end of the day sober? Just focus on that.
There are a million stories on here of people who just stepped off the path and couldn’t make it back for years. Just search relapse with the . Let those people make the mistakes for you.
Hopefully the replies on here are making you feel a bit less lonely. Sometimes our regular escape feels tempting, that’s really the test of your program, use all the tools you have and that people have suggested.
As for tired, do whatever helps you relax, and then rest your sober head on the pillow feeling proud.
I felt SO much less lonely with these replies. I don’t have social media or any other sort of forum account, so it’s a bit odd for me to derive human connection from a message board - just tbh, but it’s proving to be so helpful to have everyone here.
Including yourself - thank you very much for taking the time to reply.
SUPER helpful! Very correct that jumping off the path only makes things worse overall. The pros of my pros/cons list was short, and for a small stent of time.
Just remember why you started your journey to begin with. I understand I struggle with feeling lonely since going sober and I’m only day 43. Go for a walk something and clear your head. Helps me
When I’m in that place I think of my future self and what she will feel like after taking “that” action. The answer is always the same: guilt, shame, and feelings of failure. It’s just not worth it.