Just a small message of solace to all those who dream about moderation and can’t, believe me, it is completetly overrated…
I’m taking nalmefen for a couple of weeks and i’m really able to stop after 5 drinks or less, what is absolutley impossible to me without medication.
First, i was very happy about that fact and now having a weapon against those horrible crashes.
But, there is a catch: First there are strong side effects (insomnia, weird dreams) and of course, the reasons why i drank are still there, so i have a lot of work to do.
I just wanted you that to know and to thank you for your help and support.
Maybe it’s time to forget about medication and try a AA meeting will be people there who have walked in your shoes and can help you on the right path good luck on your journey moving forward
I completely agree. For me moderation would be pointless because if I can’t drink in life-ruining amounts then I don’t know why I would drink at all. I only knew how to drink like the world was ending tomorrow
I have truly got to the point where I don’t consider moderation to be a dream. I can do far more sober than I ever could tipsy. Plus it’s cheaper and there are no unpleasant side effects!
You don’t moderate, a substance is moderating you. I don’t judge it btw, if it’s what you want
I am moderate in a very few things, i’am always over, too much. It was like that when I used to smoke pot, it’s like that if I drink, and it’s the same when I love someone. And it goes on with my passions, music, cinema whatever, you name it, It’s always too much. I work on it
Yes this is so true. Deep down we know we are not normal drinkers because we have to put so much effort into trying to be. One of the things I’ve noticed is normal people go out with friends and alcohol is an added benefit of that but they could take it or leave it. For me alcohol and drinking was always the main event, and having people around me was an added benefit. Horrible thing to admit but my main relationship even when out socially was always with the bottle, not the people I was with. That being said, I’ve had periods where I have managed moderation, but it never lasts, and it’s mostly been because I’ve been around people who have buffered my habits because they drank so sensibly, sometimes I could do this too - it took alot of effort. But eventually and inevitably it doesn’t last, and then it just gets worse and worse, until enough is enough. So here we are
And then, there’s the fact that this is a sobriety forum. It’s really not a place for those who are moderating. Questioning whether they can? Sure. Openly discussing their ability to? Probably not so much.
Wow, these are many posts for this simple stetement.
To me, the situation is ok. Started my training for the Paris Marathon this week and i plan to do this as alcfree as possible (make sense, right?). Plus, i found a sober place to watch football and i decided to make a break from the darts.
This is an important realisation and as you know, a really big part of achieving sobriety.
Good for you for deciding to take a break from darts too! It sounds like that has been a big part of your life and something you didn’t really want to let go of.
Must say i’m surprised by your idea of moderation. 5 drinks, it’s a lot… definitely not what I would call moderate. Iwould be drunk on that.
Take care, and good luck for the marathon !
If you’ve come to learn for yourself that alcohol is bad for you why would you choose to put it in your body?
I’ll leave moderation thanks… It just means my brain chewing over the idea of a drink, and “oh will I allow myself at Christmas? New years?” By having that drink even if you do keep it “here and there” you’re giving that antsy, itchy feeling traction and power. I don’t want to be placing the floor, biting my lip thinking about if it’s ok or not, I’d rather live healthy and free from it.
, as sadly I am exactly the same! 
). Plus, i found a sober place to watch football and i decided to make a break from the darts.