I hope your trip to Roswell goes well Jenn, I’m sorry your husband has been making you feel that way. You deserve to have a great time and enjoy yourself.
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Your weekend sounds fun. AND with a friend who will see you and engage with you. Living in silence is so uncomfortable. I’m just sorry it is that way for you right now. You deserve better.
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Thank you 
It is how it is now and maybe the future will hold something different but honestly that’s really scary to think about. He says he will find a therapist when he gets back. I told him I’ll believe it when I see it.
Thank you @Nordique
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I believe in change. Heck…we’re doing it. If he says he will go find a therapist five times and doesn’t do it, but then does on the sixth time it is a win!! Gotta keep hoping. At least in the short term. Later if things are still bad? Cross that bridge then.
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Thank you for the reminder to be optimistic, to expect miracles and to let people be responsible for their actions.
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I can tend to be negative. This is a way of thinking I have to remind myself of. 
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I’m not negative per say I just tend to believe the pattern versus being optimistic. Thank you for the reminder.
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Yes, I sure get that. There is a fine line between being optimistic and being unrealistic. And who can forget this quote “The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior”? But still, I hope the best for you in your situation.
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I do as well. Thank you again
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On a different note…are you up at 3:a.m.?? 
Lol it’s 4:50am my time. My alarm goes off at 4:15am most days.
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Early!! I get up to exercise most weekdays at 5. Today is a day off and my “sleeping in day”. 6 a.m.! Haha. Except someone forgot to tell my sweet kitty who walked on me head to toe from 5-6. Because of her brother I am still cutting her major slack. 
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Lol the same happens to me with the dogs. They sleep in to about 5 or 6 before they have to get up. Sometimes when I have to get up at 3:30 they don’t want to! They will go to the bathroom and literally crawl back under the covers 
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Doing my check in. On the grand scheme of things it wasn’t a bad day. I just feel…… Idk sad I guess but I’m not really sure that’s even the right word.
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One tip I got once about emotions is that there’s two categories: the “prime” emotions, which are just basically “good” and “bad”, and the more descriptive emotion groups, which are “joyful/happy”, “sad”, “angry”, “disgusted”, “afraid”, and variations of those five main groupings.
The “prime” emotions are the ones we relate to most immediately: “that sucks”, or “that rocks”. Basically with those two phrases you can empathize with someone (and with yourself!) on a very fundamental level. It’s useful: often we don’t need to get too descriptive of our emotions, especially if we’re not sure; often all we need, to be seen and heard, is that basic prime emotion. This feels bad, or this feels good. We can go from there, and get as descriptive or keep it as general as we need to.
It sounds like today felt bad, at least for some of it. I’m sorry to hear that Jenn. It’s good to get it out. We’re here for you.
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What about melancholy, could that be what you’re feeling?
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That’s a good word for it.
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C just called and apparently was talking about our Roswell trip to someone I don’t know. And that person invited themselves. I just got off the phone with her and told her I would prefer it be just us. It’s almost a 2 hour drive and like I said I don’t know this person. I feel bad about saying no but also boundaries! Note to mention as long as she has known me I feel like she should have known how I would feel about it without having to ask. It sorta felt like the go ask mom situation from when we were kids.
Point- I held up a boundary even though I feel bad right now. I’ll be happy about it tomorrow
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Good for you Jenn. You did the right thing. Setting a boundary is an intimidating feeling but it is worth it.
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Thank you! I almost said yes but I knew deep down if I did I would not enjoy tomorrow.
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