I love this update!! I’m so happy for you guys, keep us posted on how it goes next time!
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Checking in. About to go to bed. We were trying to watch the new Matrix movie. I feel so tired! I got my first covid shot today (was finally cleared medically but had to be in a hospital setting) I don’t know if my body is like what is this but I just started feeling so wiped about 30 minutes ago.
Worked today and then headed to Texas because that was the closest hospital still doing clinics.
Y’ALL the hubs did the DISHES this evening!!! This man hasn’t done dishes in all of our years together. He went to the grocery store too and got his own lunches for the next few days of work so I don’t have to cook for him! It was mentioned in therapy how he doesn’t help around the house and M (our therapist) said something I’ve heard before about how he lives here too and he should see it as his part of being the team to help out instead of it being a chore. I didn’t realize it would mean so much to me for him to just wash some dishes.
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That’s a good day, Jenn! Those COVID shots can knock you out for a period of time. Good that you can work from home. Wishing you the best on that. Excited to see hat tomorrow!
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Doing dishes is HUGE for someone who has never done them. I question why he never has. Whaaaaat?? It sounds like he HEARD you. That is great!! So happy for you. Hope you feel better. That shot can wipe you out!
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@Runningfree I am so happy for you! Who knows where it will lead but so far it has opened the communication and had positive definite effect on your home life and relationship. I have always had my fingers crossed for the two of you bc you have said you could not imagine not being with him. Sometimes people’s eyes just need to be opened. I hope this gives him the push he needs to be happier with himself and happier in (his) life. Love that y’all have to read the book together. If you do end up split up you will have put a lot of effort into the reasons why and can be sure you (both hopefully) gave it your all. The therapist sounds just perfect. Again, I am so happy for you. Hope and expect that you will feel better quickly.
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Checking in. Worked, did some laundry and worked on my puzzle. My arm is wicked sore, inflamed and tender to the touch where I got my shot. I am the biggest baby when it comes to pain. Hopefully it passes quick. I feel fine other than that.
Thank you ladies for your kind words yesterday @Alisa what you said pretty much sums up my feelings. I’m happy for the turn of events and that things are looking up. He even messaged today to let me know our book would get here. (He gets the Amazon notifications 
) It feels as through he is really invested himself to working us out and it shows.
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Hey Jen. I’m so happy to read your last 3 or 4 post on here. I really hope you guys can work it out. It will be so nice to be on the same page for the Christmas Holidays.
Have a great Christmas. Hope your arm feels better.
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Merry Christmas to you as well. I hope you are ready for tomorrow’s selfie. Apparently it is “spirit” day at work so my outfit is planned and ready to go
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Checking in- back to 90 days. Kinda sad to think I’d be around a year had I not had that string of drinking days 3 months ago but I’m not dwelling on it. I’ll just keep racking my days.
It was a good day. Worked, cooked, and worked on my puzzle. I’m almost done. Should be able to post a picture tomorrow 
Waiting for the hubs to get home to open presents (we always do Christmas Eve) and then off to bed.
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Sounds nice! Looking forward to seeing that puzzle 
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Checking in. Good day. Fell asleep on the couch and just gonna go on to bed
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Checking in. Really good day. The sunrise on my run this morning was breathtaking. I can’t explain how emotional I feel when the sky is just so beautiful and this morning it was like someone was just painting up there.
The hubs and I got into a spat BUT we communicated about what the other did and the way it made each other feel. Instead of him bottling up, he opened up. He was in an angry mood today. Just like mad at the world.
C was having a really shitty day and called me so I drove out to west Texas to be with her. We went to the gym and did a workout then went and ate and just hung out. I think she was in better spirits by the time I left.
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Checking in. I had a really productive day off. I worked out, ran errands, did food prep for the next few days, cleaned the house, worked out again, ate a lot of food and am now laying down for sleep. Back to work I go tomorrow
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Sounds like a string of constructive days. Lots of communication with people who matter to you: your husband, C, and yourself (communication and care for yourself / attention to yourself). Happy for that.
This feels like a good pattern. Do you feel that too?
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I know the last week has been good. I even told the hubs last night I’m proud of him for the amount of effort I can see him putting in. I haven’t noticed a pattern per say but I’ve noticed things are better around me
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How are things going with reading the book?
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We haven’t been able to start because of his work schedule but he is about to have some days off and we plan to start it then
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That’s great! It sounds like a good opportunity.
For me I’ve done most of my reading in audiobooks recently. I’ve been reading books about attachment theory and relationships and it’s been helpful - it helps me understand some dynamics of the relationship with my wife. (And the audiobooks help me read while moving - I listen while walking, while cooking or cleaning, while driving, etc - I’m a very kinaesthetic person and I find it hard to sit still.)
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Checking in. Stressful day at work but I made it through.
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Checking in. I haven’t felt great all day. Emotional and my stomach has been upset. I took some pepto but I’m probably just gonna head to bed early tonight
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