In 4 day i will be 1 year sober! I am extremely proud of myself i have made it this far. Of course TODAY i am in one of my friends weddings, and it will be my first sober one. The groomsmen are a bunch of partiers, so it will be a challenge. Any tips for surviving the wedding?
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Always have a soda in your hand so no one offers you a drink
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I’m not even close to a year yet. But since my last relapse (76 days ago) I started to say to people whenever they’re offering me a drink “Thank you, but I don’t drink alcohol, I’ll glady take a soda if you’ve got one” and if there’s a gathering I make sure to tell them pre occasion that I don’t drink.
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Hey congrats on a year dude. Thats a really good chunk of recovery under your belt. I’m sure you must of accuired some really good tools in that time?. Just do the best at being yourself, have fun watching ppl dance, try to dance a lil yourself if you like it, remember the drunk outcomes never turn out as fun as alcohol promis, watch ppl change, keep a drink on you, and always remember it’s ok to do whatever you have to keep your sobriety safe. So if your uncomfortable, you have every right to leave, eat lots of food. I’m sure your gonna have the time of your life and leave feeling extremely accomplished for your 1 year anniversary.
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You have come this far. I am sure you can do a few hours more. As hard as it is with temptation try and enjoy the day. Celebrate your sobriety. Last thing you want is a shitty hangover
Its all down to you pal. Hope you have a good day
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Have fun! You’re a non drinker so it shouldn’t be an issue! You’ll be so happy going to bed tonight remembering everything and knowing you didn’t do anything foolish, lol 
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you dont drink just keep telling yourself .prob a few non drinkers there stick to soda water or a coke . remember nobody can take your sobriety from you only you wish you well.
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You have so many tools to use at this point, now just remember to use them. Try to put more energy into having fun sober rather than the fact that you no longer drink. If it gets overwhelming, go outside, take a break and remember all the reasons why you started this journey. I have faith that you can do this!!
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Every wedding I was supposed to attend since I became sober was postponed because of the pandemic, so I don’t have any personal advice but good luck and stay strong!! Just another sober day for you 
I recently found out that I’m going to be in a wedding next year so I’m already anxious for that but hopefully at that point drinking really won’t even be an idea that I entertain.
Just think of all the things you’ve gained from sobriety and how silly it would be to throw that all away for one night.
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Your a year sober. Well done.
Why do you need a tip to survive the wedding?
You don’t drink, end of!
By now that is the new normal for you.
If you were a few weeks in I’d be worried but you’re a year, when I was a year I was cool as a non drinker.
Don’t matter what everyone else is doing.
Get in there have fun, be confident!
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Congrats, friend! I recently was the maid of honor at my sisters wedding which was just one big party…when the shots are being slugged back, take a step away…remember it’s okay to walk away from something that makes you feel uncomfortable. For pics I always just had an energy drink or a glass in my hand. During the ceremony they’ll have a glass of champagne poured for you, give it to a neighbor-I poured n/a beer into my champagne glass for the speech and toast I gave. It should be a piece of cake you have enough time under your belt. Best of luck and congrats again 
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The usual “going to an event with partiers” advice is warranted.
- Never leave your drink unattended. If you need to leave it on the table to go dance, get a fresh one when you return. Hard partiers can think it amusing to slip you some booze.
- As @mleclaire points out, anticipate any toastings. Get a can of ginger ale from the barman - it looks the same as champagne when you pour it in your glass.
- Turn your wineglass upside down. The server should understand this is a tacit message “No booze for me”.
- Take your own transportation there so you can leave. You are not the groom, so you are not required to stay the whole time. If the reception devolves into a drinking contest or drunken loud talk, you can simply beg off with “I have a sick headache right now and I need to leave”. And likely they won’t care if you go, more booze for them!
And have fun! It is possible to do that sober, remember?
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