I hear you! A million times when I was drinking I wanted out of our marriage. I thought my husband was such a dick. Surprise!! It was (mostly) me being a dick!! It is laughable now, but man, he put up with a lot.
Glad you are working on your stuff and marriage and appreciating who he is and who you are. Life can be much simpler without the chaos of drinking.
It’s been a pleasure you alwsy have a great input into this community and I myself are hourned to be on this journey with you.
Thank you so much @Lilemm you and so many other’s are a huge inspiration to me and teach me daily…
Things certainly seem more black and white and desperate when drinking. I don’t think of my husband as a hero, but when sober can appreciate he was doing what he thought was best in relation to my drinking. Outside of drinking, sobriety is helping me understand and deal with his flaws and my own flaws in a more constructive way than ‘fuck you’ and ‘I’m fucked’, which was respectively how I dealt with the problems drunk.
PS I love ur use of emojis!
Do u know emoji comes from Japanese? E is picture and moji is letter. The emo doesn’t stand for emotion.
Quote of the day for me right here. And it never gets old.
Your story is really inspiring for many people. I believe im in a similar situation with my spouse but sometimes I fail to see all her qualities like you mentioned and just focus on the negatives. I think its the addiction trying to sabotage things so I end up alone and free to embrace addiction again.Shes a super hero to help me for all these years and never abandon me when i was an asshole many times.
Thank you… In all honesty I think I may get sudden bursts of excitement thinking I’m actually learning something about myself to save myself… In doing this I have to look past the actions of other’s and only look at me… My hearts in the right place for sure but I know that I’m easily distracted from thing’s that I’ve done in my past regardless of why I did those things I have to own my actions… I was under this seriously false impression that I only acted that way because of his actions, drug’s, alcohol etc… That’s simply not true… My decision was altered by drug’s and alcohol but I made those mistakes on my own… Might not have happened if he wasn’t around but it was still me… You don’t heal yourself by hurting other’s… He’s still my hero but I’m not gonna go in that shed with him and the WT… I’m glad he has enough respect for me to go out there… That is progress…
This gives me hope! Hope to cope and deal with the shame of some of my actions and things I have said. To own it and make amends … sending good vibes to you and your family!
Wow… Thank you so much for making my day!!! Without hope where is the will to survive… I’m a huge fan of hope, faith, joy, peace and love… With love being first… It certainly beats the the flip side… The more effort I give in doing right and owning my actions the more positive life is becoming for me… Hang in there @Puppylove it gets better every single day we that we are sober…