Hey everybody,
so the next part is going to be uncomfortable but I’ll have to reap what I sow at some point.
What I’m trying ask today is a question that has been on my mind for a long time and I might need to ask for help.
I started using this forum after my last relapse and I have a very good reason for coming back here.
It’s because I lost a friend. Due to my own actions I might add but still.
I had a friend before rehab. She and I always said that we were like family and then one day she was gone.
That was until my last relapse.
Out of the blue I get a message telling me she wanted to reconnect.
So naturally I agreed. Mainly because I had questions as to why she wanted to be a part of my life again.
None of those questions were answered of course, but my frail ego just couldn’t let it go.
We met up, we drank and at some point I messed up horribly.
I started insulting her, it got so agressive that another friend of mine had to get between us.
I called her things that were inexcusable.
Things that I would never say sober and never be okay with.
Naturally she cut all ties with me. I tried to get in touch with her on the next day but she was not having it.
After I found out how much of an asshole I’ve really been I can’t blame her.
I think I already wrote about it in my welcome post but I have a new question:
I’ve been checking her Whatsapp just to see if she is still alive. Not because I want to iniciate contact but because the thought of her hurting herself because of my actions is making me physically ill.
She has not blocked me but I strongly believe she has deleted my number as I can’t see status updates anymore.
On that night I was just as much as a piece of shit as her mother. An alcoholic who left her and her 2 siblings to fend for themselves,
her abusive ex-boyfriend who in a drunken rage, also treated her like shit.
On that night she wanted to meet a friend, instead she met a monster.
I don’t believe this can be mended nor that it should be.
She has heard “never again” for hundreds of times so it is utterly meaningless at this point.
The question I have for you is:
Should I completely delete her number?
Right now It’s one of my main motivations to stay sober. So that whoever that me was is buried deep, and stays dead.
But I also know that I’m working on borrowed time if shame is all that’s keeping me from drinking.
Because I don’t think I’ll feel like this forever.
I personally feel like it’s to early to let this go.
I shouldn’t forgive myself for this.
But apart from forming unhealthy obsessions, what whould you people do at this point?
I hope your day is good and I hope your replys are as brutally honest as they need to be.
Greetings,
Jonas