To the Relapser: Volume 13

If you are constantly relapsing, do what ever it takes to stay sober. At 2047 days sober, the blessings of sobriety continue to surprise me and the tools I gained getting sober still help daily.

I am currently in a situation, that if I was still drinking would have caused me to spiral into the drunken abyss. I am dealing with life on life’s terms.

Ms. Monkey may have breast cancer again. While the doctor feels that she doesnt…we are currently ruling it out. Nerve racking, to say the least.

My brand new grandson has been with us the last 4 days. It appears is mother and father are headed to divorce…and mommy and him are moving in.

My new job is great. However, i am really having a tough time dealing with it. For the firat time in 27 years I am not in charge, i am not a leader, I am not a manager. Come to find out…that is a tremendously tough change for me.

All this together is pulling on my emotions, affecting my sleep…i could very easily be a grumpy old asshole…a drunken mess.

Sobriety has given me the tools to breath and function. It has given me the ability not to affect those around me with the crappy feelings inside.

Do what it takes to get sober, life with out excuses is a blessing

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Thank you for sharing this. That sounds like a lot all at once. :people_hugging: Sobriety doesn’t change life’s challenges, but it can allow us the strength and space and inner resources to navigate thru them…just as you are showing us.

Sending healing, peaceful and loving juju to you and the family. :people_hugging::heart::people_hugging:

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Bloody hell, mate.
As a natural leader you’re going to triage this shit-pile and get on with it. Doesn’t mean you like it or want to deal with it all, but you will.
From within the chaos will come pathways forward, the most important (or only important) tasks will be promoted, the others demoted or forgotten - trivial in the bigger picture.
You’ve got a lot of loving and a lot of living to go.
Wishing you only the best.
AB

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I was looking for a monkey in the rain gif but look at this happy grooming session.
Fight like hell man. I’m sorry this is all happening. Talk those struggles out here, we’ve got you.

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Hilarious! I love it

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Such an important message. I’m grateful for your share - living life on life’s terms, indeed. Folks can learn a whole lot from you and your handling of this shit storm of life dumping on you guys right now. No one has to be the superhero and fix everything all at once, sometimes there are unknowns and things out of your control and you have to use all your tools to get through it. I’ll be thinking of you all, especially Mrs. Monkey. Fingers crossed for a cancer free outcome. And I hope you all individually and collectively do remember to breathe! Hope you’re sharing that message with the ladies in your house, too. :heartpulse:

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Wow Scott! You’ve got a lot on your plate right now. Stay strong and stay the course. Sending positive vibes that Ms Monkey is cancer free and the rest of the shit storm calms down.

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That!!! When i was drinking, i would have assumed (horribly) the superhero roll. Now…just gotta triage life as it comes.

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Yes, this is life. Sometimes we ride the wave and feel incredible, and sometimes we get under that wave and fight for air.
This all sounds overwhelming, good that you are sober to deal with those things with a clear head.
Hold that head it up high! :heart:

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Great post Scott. Sorry about the circumstances that had you post this. I really love that Super Hero part were we always use to think we had to come in and save the day. Or fix everything right now. Those days were so exhausting. And then getting drunk and hungover didn’t quite help either.

Thanks for your share.
Thinking about you and admiring you Mr strength and hope. I’m happy to read how you are showing us how to deal with life on life’s terms. And everything will work out for a reason.
Step 3 it is :pray:

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It’s life and life’s exhausting quite often. You’re doing it. All of you. Together. Glad to have you with us friend. You give a great example to follow. :people_hugging:

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Thinking about and hoping for the best for all of you. So glad you are going through all of this sober and not drunk. ‘No cancer’ hugs for Ms Monkey. Fingers crossed …

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Scott, this is a demonstration that fear can be supplanted by faith. Faith in your soul mate, faith in your sobriety, faith that fundamentally all is well and all shall be well, these are the foundations that will allow you to weather the drama and emotional pain.

Blessings are showering on your house :pray:.

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