Anyone have any good insights and knowledge/ examples of how to let your Higher Power “ Relieve me of the bondage of self “ currently getting on my knees morning and night, asking my higher power for help and saying the third step prayer. I am almost 3 months sober, working with a sponsor, going to meetings, and working the steps. Also engaging in prayer and meditation practices. Just looking for some feedback. Thank you! 
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Just keep doing so without any expectations. Life on life’s terms.
Don’t make any of it compulsary, no need for that ( took me a while to understand that though 
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Think you’re already doing it! Good thing to talk about with your sponsor, too.
A second opinion though is yeah… it’s just being aware of my faults and defects and openly inviting something greater than me to help me change.
At first it’s just having a willingness to take actions suggested by others. Also being able to accept fault in things. And accept that those things are in the past, it doesn’t have to be that way today.
I think as I kept working the steps, I learned more ways to actively do all these things. The meditation helped quite a lot! Quiet moments to reflect on how I’m still struggling and simply admit I have work to do and things to let go of.
Sounds like you’re on a good path!
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Thank you very much for your insight! I appreciate you!
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For me it is asking thru prayer and then taking action thruout the day to connect with my HP, either to give thanks or to ask for guidance.
Like urself, I pray every single morning for my HP to remind me of my ultimate powerlessness over my addictions, over people, places, things, and situations. I also ask my HP to guide in my recovery and show me how to live clean for the next 24 hours. To show me how I can help others (to relieve my selfishness), and then I ask my HP to show me what the next right action is for me to take and to keep away from “distractions” that pull me away from my HP. I meditate. I remind myself of the person I want to be (kind, patient, gentle, selfless etc).
Then I go about my day. And I consciously keep my HP in the forefront of my thoughts (well I try my best lol). With our HP in our lives, all things are possible. I know from experience that my HP is the only thing against the first use. That is my armor and defense. And breaking the bondage of self is for me basically stepping outside my self and being of service to others and to my HP and then also not feeding into those addictions. The biggest thing for me is coming to my HP 1st when I am approached with a situation instead of acting on self, which has been tough at times… especially with anger. But its progress not perfection I say lol
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This is fantastic. I will keep what you have said here in mind going forward. Especially the part about going to my HP first when approached with situations instead of thinking of self. That is something I can actively and consciously be doing. Very well said. Thank you for your input. Much appreciated!
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Ur welcome! Im glad it helped! I noticed myself that when I only prayed in the morning and at night, I still felt like I was acting on self will alot during the day. Sometimes id end up using and wonder what happened?! Then I would end up feeling crappy and sometimes even having urges to use bcuz I wasn’t do the whole “Stop and Pause” approach. Now before I act on something that I am unsure of, I basically stop for a quick second and ask my HP for guidance. I especially go to my HP when I feel like using, or if my mood is in a funk like self pity or depression or anger. I have learned that all of these are “distractions” that are trying to push me away from my HP.
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I feel very similarly throughout the day sometimes and notice by the days end when I do a recap that a lot of my thinking has been aimed towards self or by self will, so I don’t believe I did a very good job in handing my will over and letting my HP work it’s magic. I know continuing what I have been practicing will keep me on a solid path with a good foundation, but I feel like I have been missing that spiritual tool that I can pull out at anytime throughout the day when my brain is running crazy with crap that is bringing me down. I think you might have given me that tool. Thank you!
I was a pretty committed believer, long before I chose sobriety.
What helps me to keep on trusting my HP is looking back over my life and all of the tough situations my HP saw me through. Times of scarcity. Times of emotional challenge. Times of physical challenge. My HP provided material resources, signposts for my journey, and brought people into my life to walk beside me.
I figure my HP has been so faithful to me in many things, how could I not trust His telling me to get sober. Really, all I had to to was really choose sobriety, and trust Him and He has provided the means and the people to see me through.
If you would have told me I’d be where I am today, I’d have never pictured this. His plans for me are better than I could have imagined.
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I want to thank everyone so far for your input on this topic, everyone’s responses have been a great help! I love getting different opinions and having more people to bounce some ideas off of. I’m glad I got active on here. What a great platform to have and support system to enhance sobriety.
Trust your HP
Clean House
Help Others
This is my new way of life and I’m glad to be on this journey with you all!
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Didn’t get to read todays daily reflection this morning as I was late waking up so I just did and It even gave me an answer to my question. Coincidence? I think not. That’s my HP throwing me a bone
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Love this 
Not a coincidence at all!
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