I am sorry. Would you like a derailment void? I considered this previously, but wasn’t sure how much of a stickler you were on your threads. Let me know if you would like it cleaned up.
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Lolol hell no. I’m just messing around.
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Always good to check these days.
Is this better?
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Sadly that is true. However, it’s tough to derail a thread that has no clear purpose.
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That was my initial take. For threads posted by newer members, I think it is important to not derail them.
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Probably moreso. I don’t think anyone is too concerned about my threads. Lord knows I have a lot of them
You and me are solid. You earned the right to call me on it.
If I seemed a bit raw last night, it’s because I was. Yesterday was the third anniversary of my Mom’s death. Not an excuse, but rather a bit of explanation.
What set me off about that post was what was framed as a bit of sympathy seeking introspection, was really just a primer in amateur victimhood. “I may have been wrong in the way I responded to some what I’m sure was well-intended input, but it came from a toxic male, and I’m sick of being told how to feel, so not sorry. Oh, I think it’s sad that just because I chew the fingers off your extended hand, delete my comments, and then bash you in terms fit for the best college paper on intersectionality, that you feel the need to cease communication. We can learn from one another”.
Maybe I’m reading too much into it, but it was written about me, and Pants, so I exercised the right to take offense.
I did learn something though. I need to step away, and I am. For a time, and perhaps time and again. It ain’t you though. We good.
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Nope. Let it stay. She’s entitled to her views. They spoke volumes to me.
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I can understand how you would be upset. And especially on the anniversary of your Mom’s death. 3 years is a short amount of time. My heart goes out to you.
Being publicly called out sucks, I know. You are certainly allowed your experience of being angry about it and I don’t want to minimize that.
You are such a valuable member here. I know the feeling of needing to step away. We must take care of our mental health.
I do hope if you have suggestions on how such posts should be moderated you will share them. I was hesitant to delete the thread as requested, because I feel the responses, while not what the OP wanted to hear, mostly came from a place of caring, if not understanding. All the rest kind of gets lost when we only have the one side. On the other hand, when I am asked to delete, I delete. Fine line.
Please know I respect and value you. I often read your replies and feel…ah, that is so helpful. And they have a calming feel at times, which comes across. Be well.
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I had a problem with the same member years ago. She had attacked her girlfriend while in a drunk rage, which required the victim be taken to the hospital for stitches. Everyone on hear told her its okay like she was some how the victim, even though prior there had been threads about how its never okay for a husband to hit his wife. When I called it out there was crying and attacks everywhere. The double standard that gets set around here can be very real sometimes.
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Sassy, it is with respect and admiration that I say I don’t envy your position in situations like this. It takes the wisdom of Solomon to keep the anarchy at bay. Why do you think I have always declined nomination for Moderator? To quote Sun Tzu:
If you know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle."
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In my very early days (like 3 years ago) I was all about what I can’t do…but I “wanted” sobriety.
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I remember that. Super messed up double standard there.
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It’s all those damn athiests.
Send em all to Hell!! 
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Wonder why “no religion please” doesnt get banned or any flags. 
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Is it a shitshow thread like the funny one? If not, then perhaps that is why.
I guess its not. Probably cause religious people were like “o this thread isnt for me” so didnt bother with it.
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Don’t worry, any post that bashes any type of organized religion I will be flagging from here on out.
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