One day sober and now getting desperate for beer. Trying to control myself so hard. Feels like legs are going towards liquor shop automatically.
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Yes I’m with you, it’s day one for me to
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Hang in there you two… it will get better. Sending you strength
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I feel this for both of you. That automation is the worst, it leaves you feeling like you cant trust yourself and the shame of giving in degrades the confidence you try to muster to quit.
Im not sure I have a “solve”, but I know a lot of people here share wonderful things that work for them for their cravings. For me, maybe I just share a couple of what helps when I have a craving…who knows, maybe sometjing helps maybe it doesnt but can get us thinking about setting ourselves up to stack our days.
- run or exercise - get the endorphines running. Even if its just a 10 min burst to help through the craving
- write a little list of why you want to quit - write out things that are positive and negative (shit you did while drinking you dont want to repeat)
- play tape to the end - sure the 1st one feels good, like a release of a tight coil that gets tighter and tighter as you crave that starts to loosen the minute your body takes over and decides to go. But how long does the good feeling last? Where might you end up? What about tonorrow?
- get your hands busy if you can…with something decently enjoyable to you if possible like hobby type shit or even cleabing if you find that helps (stuff that makes you feel productive)
- remember…the craving will not last. The more days you stack, the weaker they get. It will not be like this forever!!
- maybe try a quit lit book? When you get a craving read a chapter. I feel like others on here probably have better suggestions then me, but I did the big book for a long time (interesting even if you dont end up in AA), Allan Carrs book, another quit drinking without AA book and beyond the 12 steps
- have LOTS of other dribks around!!! I am keeping nyself stocked up witj non alcoholic fizzy beverages. Im a beer lady myself, so i like that fizzy not too sweet stuff.
- share and read on here
Not sure any of this will be helpful and by all means I do not mean to overwhelm with it. My kids and family were a huge reason for me, and I could see I was gping a way with drinking the last yr and a half that I did not want to go down. This place and having a sober community to chat with/check in with has helped me HUGELY and I cannot even explain why. Just not being alone, the encouragement etc. You can do this, nd you know what even if you fall back down do not give up. Some peopke quit and quit then, but relapse is part of many peoples stories and that is true.
Two things I also found really helped me (back when I was 20 and got sober, and me wanting that again so getting back to the basics…as they say) is writing out a trigger list (what triggers me? When do I reach for it?) And what kind of took belt can I put togethet to help me with those triggers [i.e., what are things I can do when triggered or to help me get me back].
Hope uou both stick around and push through that feeling, but if not no shame get back up and try again. Xo.
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Day 1 here as well! Lots of sparkling water, and weird feelings about not being drunk. It’s odd, but in a good way.
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Congratulations to all of you’. It’s going to sound corny but it’s one day at a time. Keep showing up here. There’s always someone on to support you. It’s a wonderful community