So I’m on a journey to rid myself of a few addictions. Weed, wine, and porn. So far I’m doing pretty good with not drinking and I’ve cut out porn completely. But I’m a regular weed smoker in a weed friendly state. Living with my alcoholic father and a brother who is also a weed smoker who also drinks.
My struggle is I’m worried about detoxing and relapsing because dealing with toxic people is gonna trigger me. And as much as I wish I could move out, I’m in the middle of a career transition.
Which is also fueling my desire to get sober. A job I want, but I have to be drug free. I want it bad enough to just start the process and obviously I’m concerned about the effect weed is taking on my mental health. I’ve noticed when I quit weed before I CRAVE alcohol and if I’m going cold turkey, I can feel quite stressed and volatile.
I’m rly just trying to be strong enough to push past that first month and then maintain my sobriety. I just know the first month is gonna be torture.
Any advice on how to deal with these triggering factors would be lovely!
Id go to meetings, go check out alot of different ones. It will keep you out of the toxic environment as much as possible, help establish support and introduce you to sober people.
I found a marijuana anonymous group that I really liked. A friend I made in AA took me to it. I made some good sober friendships there.
Participate here. Its 24/7 here which I really like. I participate here daily. It helps keep me focused.
Have to discover the new sober you. Listen to music or exercise or read a book,call a friend. Triggers and cravings are normally just a few minutes long and pass by quicker if you dont romanticize about it. It is gonna be a tough first month but just be easy on yourself and patient. Try to eat /hydrate and sleep on a routine the best you can . Also hydrate extra while taking a vitamin supplement may help the deficiency from detoxing. Goodluck on the new job!
You have a good goal, hold fast to your sobriety’s for yourself and that career you want. You and your goal first.
Toxic people are always difficult esp if they’re under the influence. In your mind have an escape plan. Simple breathing exercises ( look in you tube) can be learned and used to take you out of the moment and put you in your own space. Same with a song you like and things you can do. Have a plan. What will you do if they, or anything else, triggers you?
Focus on your goals and the positive around you. Expect success, plan for it. Wishing you the best.
My advice would be not to quit it all at once, though that might be problematic in your situation. Whenever you’re craving, keep yourself distracted at all cost. And don’t believe the asshole in your head telling you you can moderate. It’s a lying bullshitting killer. Always ignore that voice.
