I just looked up EA (emotions anonymous) and actually think that looks really good! Like you I have a lot of stuff to process and don’t really know how. I am on the wait list for therapy but I am going to check this out in the meantime.
Like you I was not physically addicted to alcohol, as in not a daily drinker, however I have found great strength and support and in the recovery community. Just because I wasn’t out of work, homeless, in jail etc doesn’t mean my relationship with alcohol was a good one. Like @Becsta says the term ‘alcoholic’ isn’t one with a clear definition.
I don’t know the intention of the person who mentioned EA to you - they may have meant to check it out as well… I haven’t been to AA so can’t really advise, but if you wanted to speak to someone about it, maybe whoever chaired the group? Or there are lots of other meetings (in and outside of AA) - see the resources for our recovery thread for some ideas. I am going to add EA to it!