41 year old, mom of the sweetest toddler in the world. Happily married, decent job that pays well and gives me all the down time I could expect at this stage in my life. And yet… I was drinking a bottle of sparkling wine alone at home while my 2 year old was at daycare and I was “working”. It first started as a “treat” and became a daily habit. And somehow I justified this behavior. I’m so ashamed but all I can do is be better. Today is day two of sobriety and I’m feeling committed. Just scared that this will be another failure. It’s so wild how my brain figures out how to manipulate me and destroy my resolve.
I appreciate knowing this community is here. Wishing everyone the best success toward your goals!
We’re go happy you’re here! Congratulations on day 2! The first couple days I needed to break the day down further into hours, and sometimes minutes, or moments. It’s not always easy, but it is so worth it!
And it’s gonna be so great for your little one too! My kids were my reason to start my sober journey for sure! We’re looking forward to seeing you around here.
Thank you for sharing so honestly. There is so much courage in naming what was happening and choosing to stop, especially with the weight of shame involved. You’re not alone in how sneaky and convincing that “treat → habit → justification” cycle can be—so many of us recognize that exact pattern.
Day two is huge. Truly. And the fact that you’re committed and aware of how your brain tries to manipulate you is not a weakness—it’s a strength. That awareness is something you can build on. Fear of failure is incredibly common, especially when this matters as much as it does to you, but today you’re not failing—you’re showing up.
Also, I just want to gently say: shame thrives in secrecy, and you’ve already taken some of its power away by speaking here. You’re a mom who loves her child, a partner, a person doing her best—and choosing sobriety is an act of care for all of that, including yourself.
Be kind to yourself in these early days. One day at a time really is enough. You don’t have to prove anything about the future right now—just focus on today. This community is here, and you don’t have to carry this alone.
Rooting for you
I’m incredibly moved by your comment. Thank you so much! I’m going to copy and paste your note into my notes on my phone. Im starting a list of motivational things I can access super quickly for when things start to get really hard.
Welcome to the forum! Glad to have u here! And congratulations on day 2!!
I also am a mom and I too had alot of shame and guilt bcuz of my using/drinking. But i can honestly say, that getting clean and sober has removed those feelings 100%!
Take a look around the forum! Get into the routine of checking in daily on the check in tnread. Come on here before u pick up a drink. Let us help u thru it! We cant do this alone
Welcome and happy you are here. You are doing this for the right reasons and that will become more and more obvious as the days pass.
Like you, I began here at the very early days of sobriety. A loving wife and amazing son but I needed people that have lived my experiences. Fast forward to my upcoming 2 year soberversary and I can honestly say that a very large part of my success was this group.
I absolutely adore so many people here. Non judging, supportive, insightful wise, and so many more words I could use but I think you get the idea.
Hopefully we see you around more and please read read read. Share as well, often and unabashed. Everyone here is pulling for you and your success…
Hi and welcome, I quoted a sentence of what you said because that part us such a big part of recovery: connection. Connection with people who “get’s it”. For me that was one of the reasons to join here more then 7 years ago when I had enough of my drinking. I’m still here because it helps me to mantain my sobriaty. This place is my sober tribe and you are one of them now
This place is filled with treasures, so start hunting them! For me one of those treasures was the check in thread. Many people use it to write and reflect about their day. Also to keep themselfs accountable. I was there for years…every day. It helped me so much! Feel free to join, you will meet new friends there! Checking in daily to maintain focus #82 - #1246 by Butterflymoonwoman Just klick at the link to read and join. You will be welcomed!
Thank you so much! Day four and I’m hanging in, but anxious as hell. I was trying to find the check in thread but couldn’t, so really appreciate you sharing it. Hope you are doing well and CONGRATS on seven years!
Congrats on 2 YEARS! I can only imagine how that feels. Aside from my pregnancy, I haven’t gone more than 7 or so days without drinking, and typically drank every single day.
so many people here. Non judging, supportive, insightful wise, and so many more words I could use but I think you get the idea.
