I made it two weeks. Last night I had family dinner for my son’s birthday with his dad and Dad’s side of the family (we’re separated but close). I haven’t yet told anyone I’m trying sobriety so my son’s dad automatically orders two beers, one for each of us. I felt the panic and immediately debated if sobriety is stupid and weird and thought what the hell it looks cold and tasty. BUT in the end I said no thank you and later ordered a mocktail. I was the only adult not having a beer. But I made it! Uncomfortably, but I made it.
Side note: I haven’t announced my sobriety to anyone yet. I’m just telling them I’m not having a drink right now/today. I’ve gone sober for 90 days before and people get weird when you tell them. And I’m just not ready for that. It also helps myself to keep saying, I’m not going to have a drink right now because that’s the only way I can get through.
I’ve had to tell concert tickets and turn down invites to do fun things so I’m not tempted. At some point I’ll be able to socialize and do fun things. But I’m not ready yet. It’s still very early and need some more time under my belt. But I’m proud of my decisions so far!
Congratulations on 2 weeks . Those first couple are really damn hard.
I know it can be scary to let intentions of sobriety be known, it’s why this place is great . Addiction is powerful if you’re isolated, the more people you have in your corner the better. Best wishes to you.
Thanks for sharing! It is very similar for me and thus a true inspiration. I am at 22 days now. Will attend a congress this week. This is going to be somewhat of a challenge, since there is a lot of social drinking involved. Yet I do not want or need to take part in that and want this to be my very first sober conference.
Good luck! Can I make a recommendation? Please ignore if not applicable. I’ve quit in the past and in my experience, having a drink in my hand that looks like an alcoholic drink prevents people from offering drinks or asking questions. Plus, having a drink in my hand fulfills part of the habit of drinking. A Sprite or tonic with a lime, etc. Anyway, best wishes and have a great time!
Way to go! 2 weeks is great progress. I didn’t announce to people I stopped drinking either. I just said no one day at a time. In fact I’ve still only told 6 people, and everyone here lol.
Thanks for the tip. I will try this. Yesterday at dinner nobody ordered alcohol, which was somewhat of a surprise- a positive one. But that will be different during the week. I will regularly come to the forum. I realized that it helps me to stay on track.
Hope you are doing well @LaLaJane. The conference went well, also because of your tip. What was weird was that they served ZERO alcohol-free drinks during the reception. Very weird. So I just stood there with no glass snd then I realized I am by far not the only one. That was cool.
Wow, that’s so strange they didn’t have other options! And kinda sad. But sounds like all was well! Yay! I’m leaving tonight for a 3-night music festival. Wish me luck!
. Those first couple are really damn hard.
. Addiction is powerful if you’re isolated, the more people you have in your corner the better. Best wishes to you.
