Very wise. Your boyfriend (be thankful you are not married) is an addict who isn’t really making any effort to get clean. He just hops from one drug to the next. Reminds me of my drinking days when I’d say I “quit hard liquor”, but would drink beer and wine, and kid myself that I was taking steps toward controlling my drinking.
That he’d risk leaving you homeless indicates he is entering the terminal phase of addiction. The question is, do you want to tag along? You can’t stop it, only he can.
1st. Don’t feel bad for his addiction, it’s his choice. I know it’s hard but that’s the hard truth.
2nd. To better understand how to deal with a relatives addiction try attending a Nar-Anon meeting. As they say “Nar-Anon Family Groups are a worldwide fellowship for those affected by someone else’s addiction” On the link you can find the nearest meeting from you https://www.nar-anon.org/find-a-meeting
3rd. Kraton and other substitution drugs on my understanding are a way to maskarade the addiction. Maybe a serious medical treatment with subscribed drugs, along with therapy and also attendance to group meetings will get him out of this dark path. At least that’s what worked for me.
Don’t loose your faith. I can relate to your boyfriend before I got sober, I was self destructive, destroyed my relationship to a wonderful women too, but I’m on recovery now. She was the one that showed me the door to a group meeting and now we became friends. Maybe you can can be that person for him too.
Okay…so I’m “only” coming off of alcohol so I can’t really say that my advice applies to harder drugs.
But honestly…don’t was NEED to go through withdrawal? I think we need to really FEEL just how bad it all got. If we take something else to make it all easier then isn’t it easier to say “hey, it wasn’t so bad, I can get off this any time I want to”. For me, really feeling as bad as I did those first few days really helps me to keep from picking up again. I never want to go through that.
OF COURSE…if feeling that bad could also be an excuse to go back to using just to end the discomfort…maybe it isn’t so good.
Hmm…now that I think of it…if the withdrawal is going to be that bad maybe he should be going to a detox center where he can be medically supervised. Just a thought, though I suspect he wouldn’t do that, would he?
I agree with enduring the withdrawal. Coming off alcohol was horrible for me this last time and going thru that made me realize how bad I actually was. I don’t ever want to go back thru that ever again.
Everyone, thank you so much for all your thoughts and suggestions, I didn’t realize how helpful it would be to be able to speak with people here and I am so grateful for this community