Lately I have been feeling the urge to use as the holidays are right around the corner. I have 78 days clean and the longest I’ve gone in over a year.
I know I can do this, it’s just getting hard to maintain my life now that the chaos is gone.
Just looking for some advice or a pick me. Really struggling today.
My first Christmas led to a pretty hard craving. Ended up making the people I was with leave the party so I could get out of there. Once we got back to the place I was staying I walked to an AA meeting.
For new years I spent it with people from NA.
Welcome to the community. I’m glad you’ve posted in this time of need.
That’s awesome! Is there any way to let yourself be taken in by the season, go see lights, spend time with family? Decorate a little?
It’s my hope anyway that once I find fulfillment in life and learn to enjoy it, it will be too good to risk or try to run away from. I’ve spent weeks of my life in bed nursing hangovers and regret it so much.
Thank you! I recently deactivated all social media so it’s really nice to have this community.
That does sound really nice. This is my first year being single after a very emotional end of a 5 year relationship and I going out to see lights and things alone is hard, but I think I will enjoy it.
I know you can too!
Welcome to the show @Bellahtrixx
This time of year can be tough, especially the first time. I don’t really have any tips other than just be sober today, that’s all that matters. Go to sleep sober, wake up sober, then go from there.
Hang out here, make some friends and have a good time, it will help make the days easier.
Glad you reached out. I had a moment last night at the store and reminded myself how horrible I would feel in the morning if I drank. Not worth it. You got this. 
I really like the community aspect of this. I don’t have much support where I am so I am very thankful for you all.
Thank you. The come downs are always the worst. Sober another day🤞🏾
Absolutely - well said!
Wow congrats on your time sober.
This will be my first xmas sober, its summer here so there’s the added social drinking events of bbqs and beach days.
I passed on my work function as I knew it would be too hard to stay sober.
The few things I’ve been to recently with people drinking i feel no one has noticed or even cared that i wasn’t indulging, and in the end i was able to leave when i felt the need and it all turned out fine. Social pressure is mostly in our own heads.
Be gentle on yourself and for this period if you feel yourself struggling put your well-being first.
Stat strong. You’ve got this.
Being alone doesn’t have to mean being lonely. It can also mean enjoying some solitude. At the end of the day, you are the only person you have to spend all your life with. So better enjoy the time you’re spending just with yourself. Be kind to yourself.
See if you can find some nice activities that are better done on your own anyway. Are you creative? Paining by numbers, jigsaw puzzles, knitting and crochet all pass hours of time in a positive way. And you will be rewarded with a sense of achievement.
Congrats on your sober time and welcome to the family.
